Moderator, it's great you're trying to offer advice, but as you said, "I hardly have any experience." So I'm wondering why you're posting it? Not trying to be offensive, genuinely curious. Also your description of sororities was... bizarre.
Let's talk about sororities Mandy -
These are the posts Moderator made AGAINST having a sorority, I will bold correct information about them so you can see my response.
-with a sorority there is a high chance of accidentally purchasing a young male when trying for a female, making this problem could lead to the death of one of your fish - What? This implies the purchaser isn't paying attention, wouldn't know the difference between male and female, and wouldn't watch the sorority enough to notice a difference in the fish. Also, a male that young is not going to kill every female his size or bigger in the sorority overnight. That is silly. If she sets up her sorority properly, they will all start out separately and she will be able to observe them. If she buys from aquabid or a local fish store, she can be sure they are female. She can also be sure by purchasing larger females with unmistakable egg spots. Sometimes very young males have false egg spots, this will prevent that from being an issue. So, all in all, that is an absurd statement and easily avoidable.
By killed, I meant from a secondary result. Most people that I have seen have no idea it is a male until is gets considerably longer fins and looses the false egg spot. From the make constantly picking in the females they will easily get stressed due to bullying which would result in a lowered immune system. Where most diseases attack. Since I have been around people with sororities for a while I picked up things from them, and usually males are thought to be dominant females until confirmed to be a male
-there is a high chance of buying a female that is too aggresive for a sorority and will pick on the other females too much - There is always a pecking order in a sorority, with an alpha female, and then going down the line towards the unlucky bottom girl. Someone will probably be picked on every once in awhile, but if there is adequate cover and enough females, this shouldn't be a problem leading to injury. If it becomes a problem, there are several ways to remedy it so that the sorority works just fine. I would be happy to share those with you Mandy. I have a 20 gallon sorority with giant girls over 3 inches as well as a few tiny petco girls, and everything between, with no problems, all added at different times.
Actually it readily has become a problem with many sorority tanks where a female becomes considerably aggresive towards her counterparts and is particularly consistent about it, not leaving any sign of a pecking order, which leads to a stressed fish, most likely to get a disease soon afterward due to the amount of stress that lowered her immune system
-you will need to spend hours and hours every clue of days monitoring aggression, so if you have a jam packed day, a sorority isn't the best choice-No idea where you got this idea. Also... she could always pick a different day to release them? Odd statement. When setting up a sorority, you definitely want to spend an hour watching them, but honestly, within 20 minutes, they will basically have a pecking order worked out, and if you provided enough cover, they will be fine. If you feel uncomfortable leaving them like that, you can always cup them and float them together so they can see each other without being able to nip each other. A few missing scales and nipped fins will be normal when they first are released and establishing a pecking order.
Sorry this was a mis typed post, I meant that you'll need to spend an hour every couple of days for about the first week as this is when most of the aggression occurs IMO
-and feeding is always a problem as the dominant one will eat an abundance of food, while the others will get a very small amount. Leading to bloating, constipation, and Swim Bladder Disease to the dominant one, and stress towards the skinnier ones-Another bizarre statement, assuming she has no problem solving skills or that this would be an issue in the first place... You just need to throw a few pellets this way and a few pellets that way. Feeding them is not really hard, and they will all come up to the surface for food. Maybe for the first day or so the shyer girls will hang back, but they figure out fast that open lid means food time and they have to be quick before the alpha gets there :) They will all get food, don't worry about this. What I do for my giant girls is get them all to one side (they follow your hand) and then with my other hand, throw pellets to the smaller girls in the other direction, and then drop a bunch in for the big girls.
Good point, I still have seen mulitple problems with feeding recently but youve seemed to come out with a good idea
I don't mean to pick on you Mod, but those were such weird things to say about sororities and not accurate at all! They make it sound like a near impossible operation surely leading to death when really, lots of cover, some luck, and patience are what a sorority requires to be successful.
Also Mandy, it does not matter the tail type of fish, some will be more aggressive and some will be less aggressive depending on the individual. If you decide to go with wanting male fish, you could also divide your tank a few times if you want and keep multiple males in there.
Here is a link to my sorority log, a step by step guide and things to consider when setting up my sorority. Bettas together look stunning, and although a sorority is slightly stressful to set up, it's easily my favorite tank and I'm so glad I did it.
My sorority log, so others can learn from my mistakes and successes.
Sorority Log - Fish from Aquabid - Photo Heavy
Ravenwinds - "I got 2 labeled female bettas from petco" - Mandy make sure you have more than two, four is the quoted minimum for a sorority, but the more you have (within the tanks bio-limits of course) and the more cover you have, the less likely an injury. With 2 or 3, one will be ganged up on, and if she is killed, there will only be two, and they will likely clash over territory. It's cool that you got a nice fish out of it ravenwinds :) And if you try a sorority again, be sure to check for egg spots and get more females.