And my opinion is the OP should take all suggestions and make their own choices. I also said "I" and "personally". The OP can do as they wish. Myself, I have observed females long enough to know I could personally handle it, the OP may not. Only the OP knows their level of experience. You're post makes it sound like I said "Ignore everyone else, listen to me and do exactly as I say" which I was not :)
I never implied that the OP should NOT make their own choices, but some encouragement on the "right" choices would be good for the OP and the fish. We have to look at what's best for the fish.
No actually you got it all wrong. I meant the exact opposite of what that is. I already know that the OP can choose for themselves and make their own decisions, and in the end they're going to do what they feel they want, need, or can do.
I already know they are going to do what fits for them overall so the best we can do is try to get enough information stuck in their head for them to go on and do what would be best for the fish and the situation.
For example..if a new member gets on the forum and says "I have 40 females from a three different pet stores with no live plants or hiding places and my tank looks so pretty." What the right thing to do would be to approach them the most positive way because they will feel they are actually being helped even with no intention of being helped in the first place and are more likely to change their situation for the best, but if you tell them "No, how could you possibly think this is okay? You need to separate them." (Just an example of a negative comment) They'll look at that and either reply back with another negative comment or will leave the forum and never come back. Resulting in the fish dying or suffering.
Point being....We should advise the best possible solution to be sure the fish are going to be okay.
And if you feel that my post made it seem like I was saying to forget what everyone else said and listen to you, you really interpreted it opposite of my intentions. I meant no disrespect.