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post #11 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:22 PM
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If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it. You aren't helping the op, just posting extremely rude and snarky comments. Please either post a polite and civil response (remember the bettafish.com rules?) or don't post at all. Reported.
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post #12 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:24 PM
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Hmm registered user wake up on the wrong side of the bed?

Not going to report you but that was rude and uncalled for imo.

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post #13 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:25 PM Thread Starter
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hmmm, I wonder why?

Get your own life.
My living arrangement has absolutely no bearing on how quickly I can reprogram a computer or how well I can research pet care, thanks. There's no shame in minimizing my student debt.
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post #14 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:41 PM
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But you understand that this is why your parents don't give a hoot about your fish advice? If I were you I wouldn't speak unless asked about the koi pond, they might get worse.

Blunt is not rude, people.
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post #15 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:51 PM
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I think it's okay to live at home. Just not okay if you sit in front of your computer all day...every day...24/7, 365 :)

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post #16 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:53 PM
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RU. You are being blunt and rude. So let me be blunt..your being an idiot today. Just blunt right.

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post #17 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 01:59 PM Thread Starter
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I can see where you're coming from, the whole "lives at home and therefore a child thing." It's something I've had issues with before, and still do. But this is a separate issue and a particularly irritating one. It's this idea that the whole Internet isn't a credible source, that the store employees are infallible, and that any stranger off the street is a more reliable source that the person you trust to cook your food and clean your house and fix your ridiculously old computers. Take a step back and forget I'm their daughter for a second, there is no logic to this line of thought.

There is blunt, and there is antagonistic. Honesty, you need to try harder if you're trying to start something.

But that's not the point of this thread. I was just interested in other people's trials and tribulations when parents/aunts/uncles unintentionally abuse their fish.
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post #18 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 02:04 PM
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:I ru, i live at home. rent and job free. and my mother listens to my pet advice. heck, i prompted her to do her own research on the bearded dragon my sister's fiance bought, that we're going to lizard sit while she finishes her military duty in two years.

so, living at home, rent free is NOT the reason OP's parents won't listen to her.

if anything, it's because they're stubborn older people, stuck in their ways, convinced the pet store people are giving proper advice because they sell them.

which we know isn't true.

OP, why don't you try pullling up a care sheet or breeder's page, and calling your parents over. "hey, Mom. Dad. check this out. this website says they need this..." then pull up another. "Oh, this one says the same thing!"

that's what got Ma to talk sister's fiance into getting Spazz something other than the sand for his tank. so many websites said not to use it, so it must be bad, right? :V
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post #19 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 02:48 PM
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What are your parents passionate about? Admit that you know absolutely nothing in comparison to what they know. Then say the same about your passion for bettas.

Passion leads to knowledge, and if someone doesn't care, they won't learn unless they have a reason to care. You'll be the reason to care. Just point it out that way. Worked with my mom.

I have a similar situation (college student, live in dorms, go home sometimes, leaving for Alaska for 5 months, training my mom to care for Sunshine, my betta girl).
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post #20 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 03:32 PM
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Esahc, nothing wrong with living at home while you're a student, IMO, not that that was what you were even asking about lol. It was never for me, but I do have a ridiculously large student debt now. lol.
Anyway, to your original question... I don't have a good solution for you... That's the way they are and it's hard to change people. Maybe others have better ideas than I do. But it's hard to change people's minds. I mean, I work at a job where people pay to get my professional advice, and many still don't take it! I try to explain the reasons why I am giving certainr recommendations; that is, my advice is based on facts, and not just something I'm making up out of the blue. Sigh. So good luck to you and certainly do what you can to prevent outright abuse, and try not to get too frustrated.
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