about ready to give up...
Dx not on my boys and girls! goodness no!
i have these friends. my one friend, S, rescued two beautiful bettas from her brother. the male was in a one-gallon that was almost never cleaned. S had to clean it when she'd see her brother wasn't going to, even after the water turned gross and brown. the female, is apparently in one of those divide hex-thingies, without the divider. S rescued them, and does water changes more often than her brother(exactly how often, i'm not sure). i posted on one picture, after noticing what kind of tank it was, and suggested getting the girlie a bigger tank. well, S's friend, J, commented, saying a half gallon is more than enough room for a betta. :/ i messaged J, telling her that a half gallon is FAR too small for a betta, and she and i kinda got into it. J insists that her bettas LOVE their half-gallons, and the biggest she has is one gallon. she said they're "very unhappy" in anything bigger, and paced back and forth, becoming very stressed. i tried explaining to J how a betta will feel much better if they have lots of plants and hidey places in a larger tank, and told her about how happy my first betta was in his 10 gallon. we went back and forth, and i gave up on trying to tell her anything, focusing instead on S.
well, today, i found out that S and her girlfriend, K, got two more bettas, a stunning silver and black DT and a beautiful blue betta(not sure about tail type). but, they got them in one of those divided one-gallon triangle tanks. i tried to tell them that the constant sight of another male would stress them out, and isn't good for them, when J told me to "get over it" and that two of hers "now ignore each other", meaning they're in constant sight of each other. i again, commented on how i've seen facts about how bettas in sight of each other stress easily and can become sick if stressed for too long, before giving up that argument. i can't talk to J at all without her berating me and telling me how wrong i am. :/ instead, i'll focus on S and K, and try to show them facts about the thins i KNOW will help them enjoy their bettas for the 4+ years they can live.
anyone got any tips on how to talk to people who have that annoying voice in back, telling them "facts"?