I have to constantly remind myself that the majority of the members here are young.
Look. This is a big mean nasty world. If your gonna get upset over some random person on the internet maybe you shouldn't be logging on.
This is THE nicest fish forum your going to find, believe me. Lately I've seen a lot of newbies getting upset and calling foul when they're just being given information. Just because we don't hold your hand and sugar coat everything doesn't make us bad or mean.
And just because you've had this or this happen when keeping fish doesn't mean it's right. I had a VT that lived 3 years in an unheated 1 gallon bowl with weekly water changes... just because he lived that long does it make it right that I did so? Anecdotal evidence means nothing if there is cold hard facts disputing it (a prime example being the neon tetras).
Now if the above post seems harsh or mean I'm sorry. I'm not one to sugar coat, I am direct, I call things like I see them. A lot of members here are similar... maybe if y'all stuck around longer than a month you'd learn that. It doesn't mean we are not nice people and it doesn't mean we hate you and want you to leave.... quite to the contrary. I'm actually a very nice person but I'm not fake and I will not beat around the bush and say "oh your tank is lovely but um.. if it's not too much of an inconvenience.. um.. maybe you might possibly consider um.. ". To really know a forum you have to stick around longer than just a few weeks.
In closing I just want to say... people are not obligated to be nice to you. That's just the sad truth. Same thing applies to the internet. I would hope that everyone on this forum showed respect for each other.. but that doesn't mean we all have to agree.
+1 to this
You can't expect everything (or everyone) to be gumdrops and rainbows. Rude people and idiots do exist, and the best thing you can do about it is to not be naive to their existence.
I almost always come across harsh because I'm more logical and factual when it comes to stuff like this. As 1f2f said, I don't beat around the bush when people ask for my opinion. I obviously don't mean to be rude...
(I can be rude if I want to, but that's not logic is it?)
I agree withe everybody who said this is the nicest forum. I'm a semi-frequent forum goer and this is hands down the nicest place.
I know it's not really a forum but have you seen the stuff that goes down on Youtube? People who have differing opinions on music/movies are flamed until the cows come home, people cursing at others who have opinions...it's sad, really.
Anyway, the tl;dr version of this is:
We truly love having everybody on this website here, we're all sorry that we come off harsh sometimes, but that's because we're passionate about giving these fish (and all fish) warm, loving homes to spend their lives in love and luxury.