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post #21 of 30 (permalink) Old 09-25-2011, 01:02 AM Thread Starter
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I would certainly prefer clove oil if it was my own fish, but in this case I just want the fish to stop suffering. It is the quickest and most painless way I can think of and have at my disposal. However, I am going to hold off for now. Do another water change tonight and maybe in the coming days I can convince the owner to take back her 'molly'. Especially if she might have overpaid. Or maybe if I can convince her of how much care the poor thing will need she will find another home for it or try to take it back.



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I agree, I think you should talk to her first. However the only thing being is that, psychologically, peers don't generally listen to peers due to an embarrassment factor. Try not to make her feel stupid, she'd probably take it better. I wish you luck!

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That is my biggest problem. I think if it was any of my other roomies that I had talked to I could have convinced them otherwise. I really don't want to come off as a know it all. I just want what is best for the fish. Hence why I haven't shoved it in anyone's face that it is obviously not a goldfish. I need to make it sound humorous, like it is an easy and obvious mistake that anyone could make. What is not so easy is telling someone that the person that was supposed to be knowledgeable at the pet store is completely full of a word I can't use here. It is hard enough with people that come onto this website who are more likely to be open to that possibility. And I know the people at our local petstores are the most derp people on the planet.



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Maybe ask one of your other roomies to help convince her? Two people is better than one.

Or just maybe say that: "Oh your molly was looking sick so I googled some pictures and it looks nothing like your fish" XD

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That is my biggest problem. I think if it was any of my other roomies that I had talked to I could have convinced them otherwise. I really don't want to come off as a know it all. I just want what is best for the fish. Hence why I haven't shoved it in anyone's face that it is obviously not a goldfish. I need to make it sound humorous, like it is an easy and obvious mistake that anyone could make. What is not so easy is telling someone that the person that was supposed to be knowledgeable at the pet store is completely full of a word I can't use here. It is hard enough with people that come onto this website who are more likely to be open to that possibility. And I know the people at our local petstores are the most derp people on the planet.
Do it this way, compare the pet store employee to a used car sales man. If he told the truth, he wouldn't make a dime. That usually helps my case with clueless people who put all faith in "professionals".


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Thank you! I will certainly try that. I think I have one of my roomies on my side, but I will try to get one that is closer to her. In the mean time, I tested the water. The ammonia reaches .25 for the goldfish, and it is still in the safe zone at 0.00 for the betta 24 hours later. So that is good to know. I changed both anyways because after tomorrow I don't know the next chance I will get.



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If you're still looking to rehome and are near-ish me i have a pond and could take the gold fish
But i doubt we're near each other and i can't drive so..

Goodluck. Just my two cents but i'm against the freezing euthing aswell. If you can do that you can simply take the fish yourself to a petstore to rehome.

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I am in the central coast area of California.

Do pet stores really just take people's fish? That just seems so irresponsible to me. Like I mentioned before, who knows what sort of problems this fish has at this point. What if it were to contaminate their entire stock? Not that I think they are responsible to begin with. Selling goldfish as mollies...



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I am having the same problem with my mother in law. She has a four inch goldfish in a 20 gallon. She NEVER changes the water and is WAITING for it to die. I have been changing the water every now and then, but I feel like it should be her responsibility to take care of it. All I am doing is condoning her behavior by doing it. Then again I hate seeing it suffer, so I clean the tank. I wish I had an answer for you, and I'm sorry I don't. I do feel your pain though.

Pet stores do take in people's fish but you have to give a donation, because they have to QT them. My mother in law did not want to pay the $5.00 donation they ask for....she is selfish with money.

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@kytkattin

most LFS will take in your fish .. either temporary or if you explain to them your situation .. the will consider taking your fish forever .. chain stores will not take them since it's against store policy and the employees don't control inventory .. it would be hard for them to explain why they have an extra fish when doing inventory ..

also LFS won't just put ur fish in with their stock .. they will QT and treat it ..

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20g for 1 4" goldfish is fine (3g per 1in fancy and 4g per 1in comet) .. they need weekly 25% water changes .. and have to be in a cycled .. and 2x filtration unit tank (so for a 20g tank you need the 40g filter or 2 20g filters) .. if she doesn't want it anymore you can give it to LFS (not all of them want a donation) instead of waiting for it to die .. goldfish live a long time 10-12 yrs under good conditions ..

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