this is the other thing I'm struggling with. so I'm curious how you guys think or handle this...
my first Betta just gave me my first deathscare tonight... he isn't dead and I have to wait till morning to see how he's doing, but. it got me to thinking, what would I do if he did die? on the one hand, it seems lame to give up after one try. and really, for all I know, maybe he was just old when I got him, and he's lived out his full lifespan... there's no actual telling I guess since he definitely wasn't a baby... or maybe he was just one of those fish with bad health, or he'd just been in the cup too long... since he wasn't healthy when I brought him home to begin with.... so in that respect I think, maybe I should try again.... but then I think, in reality "trying again" means another life... maybe even though I thought I was doing my best and doing everything right and taking everyone's advice, I was actually wrong, and I did contribute to it... in which case I'd be wasting another fish's life which is the last thing I want to do :/
so what do you guys think about this?... how do you handle it?... is it just all dependent on the fish and sometimes we just choose the wrong guy who's already dying and may not be able to be saved? or the one who's actually already really really old and about to die naturally? is "trying again" encouraged, but capable of becoming irresponsible at some point? or?....
( and in this scenario I'm only keeping one fish at a time, not taking on several at once when I may not be able to handle them.. )
I also noticed it seems common to hear the term " I'm not going to name him till I know he's going to live. " so is this truly just a common and natural occurrence? ( I guess kindof like, it really is just "luck of the draw"? [ not to state that a fish is an item in any way what so ever. just for lack of a better term though. ] )
sidenote: this is more of a curious thing than anything else, I'm not looking for a fight >.<; I know too, that I word things poorly sometimes, where they make sense to me but then everyone else seems to interpret it in a totally different way that wasn't intended in the least. >^<; so please if something insults you just ask me if it's really what I meant or not, rather than assuming I meant anything awful. D:
not sure if anyone even cares to discuss this, but if you do I'd definitely appreciate it... ^-^;