I completely understand what you are going through. My mother seems to favor my younger brother over me. She lets him go to college, and live in Texas, helping him out when he needs it, yet refuses, absolutely refuses to let get my drivers license, let alone go to college to gain my independence. I am stuck, living with my parents, and because the public transportation system sucks big time where I live, I can rarely get out of the house unless I walk about a couple of miles or so to the nearest shopping center.
She recently got him an iPhone, she says its because he's been working hard on staying sober (he has an alcohol problem) and working hard at his job and at school. I am eligible for an upgrade on my current phone, and yet, I am not allowed to get one, let alone a smart phone.
I just feel like, I dunno, I deserve more out of life. I feel like Mom and Dad treat me different, like I am "special", because I have Bi-Polar Disorder. I just want to be treated like anyone else in the world.
However, I feel that acting out like a small child isn't the answer. It would only cement their belief that I don't deserve or can handle anything more than what I currently have. So all I can do is sit her and simmer quietly and silently.
“The day the power of love overrules the love of power, the world will know peace.”
― Mahatma Gandhi