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I'm on anxiety meds too but I'm trying to wean myself off of it. The first couple of weeks on it was horrible. It made me feel crappy before it made me feel better.
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You do could do a project when he is away like a new fish tank or knitting, as suggested above. Seeing a pet store betta in the cup then making him feel better, you could make yourself feel better. Don't worry about being alone though, cause we ALL on this forum want to talk to you!! 😃
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Yup, we're here for you. Since I'm a lot older than a lot of you I feel like some of you are my kids. Lol
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I am so glad everyone feels safe to be open and vulnerable here.

It's lovely to know that people are reaching out to each other.

Finnfinn and drama queen I had horrible horrible PTSD for 2 years after 9-11 bc My apt was across the river from Ground Zero. And I had been raped the year before. And I had carpal tunnel syndrome the year before that.

It was just a bad bad time for a few years.

They tried me on Paxil which was a bad fit. Then Zoloft on the lowest dose which worked for a couple of years. Then I weaned off of it.

Therapy helped especially EMDR and EFT (emotional freedom technique) which incorporates acupressure points to help the body readjust and unlearn negative stress patterns.

There is a free EFT manual at eft universe.

Highy recommend along with yoga and qi gong (YouTube has great examples of water dragon qi gong which reduces physical symptoms of stress--water dragon is one of my favorites).

Happily I have become an EFT practitioner and yoga and qi gong teacher, so I help other people deal with anxieties on a daily basis now.

You are amazing people, and it it just a matter of learning a new skillet. Just like rescuing bettas--at first it seems overwhelming, then it gets easier and easier.

All best wishes to everyone on the thread, and thanks for creating a wonderful caring community.
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BettaQi, I'm so sorry about all you've been through and I'm glad you found some things that are helping you.
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BettaQi, I'm so sorry about all you've been through and I'm glad you found some things that are helping you.
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when my anxiety was at it's worst, my dr suggested the strangest thing but it worked! He said do normal daily tasks with your nondominant hand, like brushing your teeth, eating, combing your hair etc... He said it makes you concentrate on what you are doing and instills a sense of control over the situation.
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when my anxiety was at it's worst, my dr suggested the strangest thing but it worked! He said do normal daily tasks with your nondominant hand, like brushing your teeth, eating, combing your hair etc... He said it makes you concentrate on what you are doing and instills a sense of control over the situation.
This is a great idea!

Totally rewiring the brain.

Have you heard of Kodo, the Japanese taiko drummers?

I used to spend time with them and they all eat using their non dominant hand. Even using hashi (chopsticks)!

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I will try the hand thing! Sounds fun lol

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Isn't there an old saying that goes "Idle hands are the Devil's playground."? Maybe taking up something that requires a lot of intricacy and concentration, like model making, or painting, will help ease that anxiety. It will also give you the excuse to use the non dominate hand thing as well.

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