*sigh* Apparently it's acceptable and even really great when my mom hears about someone ELSE going into some sort of art education, even though me going into music education has made me the black sheep of the family. We had company over and they were talking about how one of our cousins is going to school for dance education and is working in a daycare to get experience working with kids, and my mom acted like that was just WONDERFUL. And it made me want to hurt someone. Because my parents think it's TERRIBLE that I'm going for music education. And I work at a local music store teaching private singing lessons, and my parents don't treat it like it's my job. Another teacher and I are planning to start up a new program there, and I was talking to my parents about it and they were like "Wait... You're going to get PAID to teach that...?" And then they talk about my lessons like it's just something I do for fun. And then they COMPLETELY invalidate my job when they comment about how some music just can't be learned (COMPLETE BS).
Ugh. It just makes me so frustrated. One, if they can appreciate someone ELSE going into some sort of art education, WHY can't they support ME in MY chosen field? And if I'm starting a program and I'm going to be TEACHING these kids, WHY is it such a surprise that I'm going to get paid for it? I WORK at the store. It's my JOB. Last I checked, people don't go to work to do things for free. AND while I DO enjoy teaching and most of the time I enjoy giving lessons, there are days when it's NOT fun. There are times when my students drive me NUTS. And it bothers me that my parents act like this is just some sort of fun extra curricular activity instead of a job.
I'm just frustrated. I'm the kind of person who NEEDS approval from other people, and the fact that my parents are so ready and willing to approve of everyone BUT me makes me crazy. And the whole idea that I should be doing my job for free also drives me nuts. Over the summer, my parents were on my case to get a job. Now I've found one. And I only work a couple hours a week, but the hourly pay is more than TRIPLE what my sister got per hour when she was working AND it's all off the books so it doesn't get taxed and I get to keep everything I earn. So it's a pretty good deal for me. And my parents have found a way to disapprove of THAT, too?
Oh! And I'm SURE they remember the time my sister's boss made her work through a snowstorm where they were predicting blizzard conditions? I NEVER have to worry about that, because I'm always at liberty to call my students and cancel their lessons provided I give them make-up lessons later on. And because I get paid directly by my students and then pay the store rent, there's no possible way they could be losing money on me, so there's no risk in me getting laid off if they start losing money.
I just don't understand why they can't approve of my job. The arrangement works out pretty great for me. I only work weekends AND I can move lessons around when I need to, so it doesn't interfere with school. The hourly pay's pretty darn good, it'll look GREAT on a resume when I'm out of college and applying for jobs in schools, it helps me with school because teaching and having to correct students has been really improving my ear, I make FRIENDS and interact with a lot of people at work, which my parents should think is great since they're convinced I'm a recluse with no friends, AND I make kids smile.
There's NOTHING wrong with my job or my choice in major. I don't understand why my parents can't just be happy that I've found a field I enjoy and be happy that I found a wonderful job and I'm getting a lot of experience in the field that'll look great when I'm applying for jobs in schools.
i know how you feel. i am the black sheep on both sides of my family. not for the same reasons but still none the less. my parents don't really give two shakes about me or anything about me. my father thought i was 6 for 4 years..... i still have the happy 6th birthday cards....all 4 of them.
but oh well. i learned early on (when i was about 8) that if you spend your life looking for someone to validate you, and give you the love and respect that you deserve as a human being....then you could possibly spend your whole life trying to do so.
sometimes you have to live life for you and not care about what others think. your doing something with your life that makes YOU happy. it also enriches the lives of OTHERS, who will in turn be thankful to YOU! and appreciate what you do to make their lives better. yeah, your parents might not see it like this, but as long as you do, that is what matters. you have to love yourself because sometimes, your the only one who truly gets you