Oy, time to vent...
IT ALL BEGAN WHEN I WAS BORN. Seriously. My mom and dad weren't married (still aren't) when I was born; well, my dad was, but to the mother of my older half-brothers. My parents never maintained an actual relationship, so my dad visits every two weeks. This has been the agreement for 15 and a half years. My mom has her own parental issues (not issues WITH them) where her mother kept her biological dad from seeing her (my grandma remarried and moved to the US) until well into her teens, BUT ANYWAY my mom decided then and there when I was born that she wouldn't keep me from my dad. She wouldn't do that to him.
My dad is great and all, but remember how I mentioned my half brothers and their mom before? Well, after years of my dad steadily becoming less of a coward and slowly letting his family and friends know that my mom and I exist (did I mention we're practically a secret?), my two older brothers and their mother STILL don't know they've got a little sister. My mom went through a similar situation (our family is pretty messed up) so she also decided that I would know of my brothers as soon as I was able to understand speech. My dad objected to it, of course, but he can't really do anything about it now, a decade later.
When I started middle school I started going to my brothers' football and baseball games. It was nice because I felt closer to them in a small way. When that started I was hoping that my dad was getting close to finally telling them, but four years have passed and I've pretty much lost all hope now that the older of the two has graduated from high school. My dad claims he could tell them right now, but he's apparently on bad terms with the younger one and wants to fix things with him before dropping the bomb. I guess I understand that, but why couldn't he have 'dropped the bomb' a year or two ago when he was on BETTER terms with him? or better yet, told them the truth YEARS ago when they were small like I was told. I just get so frustrated about it because my dad really is an awesome guy now that he's calmed down with age, and I love him a lot, but I just don't understand why it's so hard. He's told his own parents already, and I've met them, but I'd think that telling your parents you had a love child with another woman when you were still married would be harder than telling at least the ex. Blah. I dunno. Rant over.
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Rest in peace, Ralph, Xiang, and Violet...I'm sorry you didn't live to see better care!