Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: High plains desert of Southern Idaho
Oi! Did dog eat crayfish? Im so sorry dog landed square on you.
That woman is mad, and into self only. Stay away from her. How is that son turned out better? Sorry not my business.
Loneliness sux, it really does. I was like that for years. I had maybe one or two close friends. But seems I always got stabbed in the back. Take care of you first.
That means, imho, dont stay home, alone all the time. Go to the library, go to a mall, go to the park for a walk, anything, but get out of the house, not to mom's, screw that. sorry. This just sounds too familiar.
Which is better alone in a marriage? or alone unmarried. Stay married for at least 10 years, for when you retire, after that.. and actually before that.. imho, its better to be alone, unmarried. Why?
Because now you have hope, and hope can carry you forever! Dont say no to love and a new marriage. Just pick someone you dont like and fall in love later, after you are married. =) crazy i know.
Sometimes we marry, the people we are still trying to 'fix' from out unfulfilled child hood. Some how we think if we can just fix them, it will be all better. Even knowing that, its turf, and we cant 'fix' anyone.
He is throwing guilt on you to not answer the question. RUN! There used to be this great book, shoot, Ill try to remember it. I used it and it works, its difficult to maintain, but practice makes perfect.
You stick to the question, and are not allowed to side track, nor take guilt, or blame or anything, just the question. It teaches you some answers to all the possible things the other may say to get away from the question/answer.
It helps with other things, not just marriages, it helps you to hear too. Shoot wish i could remember it.
Oh, lol How to say no without feeling guilty its old, but read it. =)