My rant: Sometimes I wish that I could be a "normal" teenager/child that thinks about video games and my social life rather than aquatic plants and fish tanks. Only my family knows about my fish-keeping to its full extent. I feel that if my school mates knew about it I would be considered "weird" and many of my friends would abandon me because of that status. I enjoy fish-keeping but hate the way it's not "normal" in my school. Also, fish-keeping, for me, has turned into an obsession and life style rather than a hobby. Everything in my life revolves around it.
Does anyone else feel that fish-keeping is their life and they are obsessed with it?
Are there any teenagers on here that are in my situation?
I hope I'm not alone....
***PLEASE NOTE: I AM NOT TRYING TO BE OFFENSIVE OR RUDE IN THIS POST AND I DO NOT THINK FISH-KEEPING IS "WEIRD" ETC.***
I'm currently sat with a 15cm long chunky giant spiny leaf insect on my arm chilling out while I type, I know the frustrations of being seen as "weird". There's nothing wrong with loving what we've been gifted with in this world, we can learn so much from the nature that surrounds us - whether in monitored miniature worlds (ie. our fish tanks) or in the greater outdoors.
It can be difficult for others with altering opinions and favoured things to understand eachother at times, I'm so sorry you're feeling fearful. I know it sounds typical but your real friends will not leave you because of your passions in life. If they do not share that passion or interest then that is up to them but they shouldn't leave your side over it.
I've not had a "normal" social life for eight years due to illness but I recall when I was
in school I was seen as weird. I was so different to others in my class for varying reasons but I had a small, close group of friends who I am still in contact with today - albeit not as much as I'd like but that's due to circumstances I shan't bore you with and is completely unrelated to our differing tastes.
I guess what I'm trying to say is you aren't alone. It's good to have a passion like fishkeeping, it teaches us so much about life and it gives us a focus - both mental and physical. The responsibilities we gain and learn to appreciate will truly help us as we grow older and there is absolutely nothing
wrong with yearning to help our animals in every way possible.
I tip my (metaphorical) hat to everyone on this board, you are all here by choice and because you want to give your animals the best and you are all simply awesome. Never let your passions in life hold you back, let them grow on you and grow with you and you won't need to find friends, nor will you need to worry about losing current ones, your world will shift gradually as you delve deeper into your passion and the right people will enter your life in turn. They'll remain there. Why? Because they, like you, have a passion that makes their world brighter.