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post #14351 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-27-2012, 07:59 PM
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post #14352 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 12:49 AM
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UH oh, what did I do?!?! The other day I happend to pick up a menu from a pizzaria we go to and noticed a small jesus fish on the back bottom of it. Well I brought this up with my parents and said "I never noticed that", my parents hadn't noticed either.

Now I made the mistake of mentioning that I heard chick-fil-a does too. My dad then said that he agrees with what they said and that he doesn't think gays should be able to marry either. Then me and my big mouth said "well I think they're just hate-mongering".

Now what happened was scary, they went silent, I mean silent silent. You could almost hear them doing math putting two and two together so fast. And what's worse is now they're treating me different, you know like when someone is walking on eggshells around you.

I think I may have given away too much with that remark, and now they have the full puzzle!
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post #14353 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 01:45 AM
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It had to happen sooner rather then later because you shouldnt have to behave differently for their happiness, that is for themselves to make happen.
No one can tell others to feel a certain way just to make everyone else comfortable and quite honestly it makes me feel bad you cannot be yourself and fully accepted and love by your own parents.
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post #14354 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 02:21 AM
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I agree, BettaHeart. Kinetic, you're still the same person you were before they found out.
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post #14355 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 02:23 AM
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post #14356 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 11:39 AM
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It's not hate I'm thinking of because they are my parents. They still love my brother after all the things he's done, which are by far worse. It's just my family has a bad habit of ridiculing things that aren't normal.

They will probably confront me with it after it's done sinking in, so the countdown to that awkward moment has started. Now I'm too stubborn to cave to pressure so I'm not worried I'll hold my ground, plus I do a lot around here and know they need me as much as I need them.

So in the end I will win out and that weight I've been dragging around will be finally loosed. :)
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post #14357 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 12:21 PM
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Sounds like they are very afraid. Perhaps afraid of what gay represents to them, you know what I mean. The could be afraid of aids, etc, considering the way they think.

They could be afraid you will turn them in for being hate mongers!
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Some people act like being gay is a disease. One of my cousins is like that.
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post #14359 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 02:54 PM
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Well dramaqueen that is actually something me and my dad agree on, that being gay is not normal. Just a crossed wire in the brain. Of course it ends there as he thinks it could be fixed. Which is where my fear comes in, what if he tries to "fix" my brain? I've seen what it does first hand, when I cured my ocd I was actually repairing mixed wires. It does change you! And unlike the ocd which needed to be gone, being gay is harmless.
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post #14360 of 23961 (permalink) Old 08-28-2012, 04:40 PM
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I'm sorry, thekinetic. My parents are the same way. I have a few friends who are gay, but my mom doesn't know- and out of curiosity, I asked her what she'd do if I told her I was gay (which I'm not, but I wanted to know)- and she said she'd have a "long, long talk" with me, which I found was upsetting- she'd try to change who I was, despite her saying that she'd love me no matter what? She says it's not black and white, and since she's a social worker she's somewhat biased, because most of the people she talks to has problems of some sort. It's ridiculous.

But as DQ's said, you were still the same person before they found out. I wouldn't worry too much; eventually they'll just have to accept that. Best of luck.


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