With all the talk about men and women being different from one another, I kinda feel compelled to jump on the bandwagon of denouncing these sorts of ideas. On top of the fact that these ways of thinking don't take transgender (or gender-fluid) people into account, as someone else has already said, there's also those of us who just don't fit into either pidgeonhole. I have only ever been feminine when forced to, or when I felt it would be inappropriate if I didn't feminize myself in some way (special occasions: dresses, makeup etc.) which is a subject I have a whole other beef with (if I, say, wore a suit to a special event because being hyper-feminine just ain't me, the completely unrelated topic of my sexual orientation would be brought into question, wouldn't it?). My friends have frequently called me a "man with breasts" in the past. Interesting that they say that, rather than simply a "person". I am female, but don't fit into society's idea of what female should be.
Bringing that round to someone else's point about dating sites being ridiculous, it's made finding a date very difficult in the past. It would seem that those sites only really work if you fit into cookie-cutter ideals of what you should look/behave/be like for your age, gender and hobbies.
All this ties in for my rant about today. The idea of "decency". To me, someone who is decent is someone with good morals, who stands by them. Someone who is polite, courteous and kind to other people. It has nothing to do with what they choose to wear (or not to wear).
I had an argument on a social media site with a friend of a friend about this. He kept claiming that women should cover up because it's "decent" and "we're not animals". Well, actually we are, we're just more evolved animals, we're still mammals, an offshoot of primates. That argument doesn't really stand. As for covering up being "decent", I don't agree with it. I adhere to that standard because I must, but would rather that the focus of decency be put on people's behaviour rather than their state of undress, because we're all born with the same bits, depending on gender, and we're only taught that they're naughty, or that they're taboo.
It is that same idiocy regarding anatomy that's brought a lot of grief to women, and a lot of stupid ideas about men ("they can't control themselves when confronted with a scantily-clad woman" - pffffft, they have enough cognitive function to control themselves, I can assure you of that, some have just been taught that they don't have to, which is a massive
shame). It would seem much more fitting to apply the "we're not animals" logic to this, in that as a species, we're better than what people say about an entire gender: men are most certainly capable of controlling their behaviour, regardless of what a woman is wearing.
I apologise for going on for so long, I just feel very strongly about this subject. In no situation, ever, is it okay to pull the "but she was wearing..." argument. I've seen far too many people damaged from this ridiculous attitude.