I'm on a roll, here..
I think our society places emphasis on girls to be "sweet" and "nice", act like a lady, be Barbie and the little Disney Princesses... so we feel guilty when we're bullied (by kids, parents, molesters, boyfriends, husbands). Women (yes, I am one btw) need to learn to scream bloody murder (literally and figuratively) when someone crosses into our personal space w/o our permission, or tries to take advantage of us. Funny, when men stand up for themselves, they're "real men" but if a woman speaks up she's a b^*#@ or worse.
4 bettas: Butch, 3-year-old violet male PK EE & 3 girls in a 30 gal sorority. I do not name the girls anymore! 1/2 of them die within a month.
30 gal: 9 Oto cats, 4 Ocellifer cats. Inverts: Cherry shrimp & 2 assasin snails.
10 gal.: Butch, his 5 oto cats, 3 assasin snails, and a few snails the assassins haven't caught.