Well, are they sorry? If they'd continue to do the same thing if you had another baby, then I'd say it's a valid cause for resentment. If they're still continuing to hurt you, I'd say it's definitely a cause for resentment. Otherwise, maybe it's just lack of closure. And, once again, what DQ said. You have every right to your feelings. Maybe if you tried confronting them you'd feel better...?
I swear, though, I have this one friend who really needs to learn to get over things. (This doesn't have anything to do with anyone, I just really need to rant.) Any kind of criticism made on her character, whether it's justified or not, sends her into this whirlwind of self-pity. She takes every little thing a person says so seriously. Some people are not worth listening to. It doesn't matter, though, because that person might as well be her parent for as seriously as she will take it. I always thought that bad stuff just tended to happen to her more than other people, but now I think she just whines about it a lot more. She considers me to be her "best friend" and yet somehow I always manage to hurt her in some way. Today she was in tears because we got into an argument about whether or not she should get revenge on someone who, arguably, did do her wrong. I tried pointing out to her that it wasn't going to help things, it wasn't going to make the world or her any better, etc. But then she argued that there are a lot of things that don't make the world any better. I eventually got so fed up I stormed off. Her reasoning for doing anything not-positive is that she's been wronged before, and a ton of people don't do right, so why should she? And she was talking about how the world would be better without that one girl, who is a young person. I pointed out that even though right now right now she might not be the best person in the world, she has the rest of her life to change. "Yeah, but I don't think she's going to," was her only response. I felt like screaming at her "You are fourteen years old! No one person has the right to make those calls, but especially not a young, unexpirienced girl like you!" If anyone has ever seen the anime Death Note, they will understand what i am talking about. Point being, everyone is only responsible for their own self. Just because others are not going to be tip-top upstanding citizens does not give you the right to behave however you wish. And to think that this all spiraled from me trying to keep her from getting in trouble.
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Last edited by TheCrysCat; 05-23-2011 at 08:48 PM.