Drama thats right, its almost as if people start to stare as soon as your child acts up just WAITING to see the lengths your ognig to go without gonig too far. There is no happy medium to please all on it.
Going limp, yeah thats horrible, and usually she does it when my back is killing me anyways and i cant carry her, wosrt ive ever done is left her on the floor and walked away a bit making sure to say BYE alot and wave and she would come running and offering kisses then go into the cart.
I was spanked, grounded, smacked, whatever was most convenient at the time but my dad was a bit too rough so i try to just use time outs, reward systems, and fake goodbyes. Good rewards are mccdonalds french fries if shes good while shopping or a little mnm pack at the register. I dont see it as spoiling her so much as just teaching her that if you are civil and quiet and polite, life will be much easier for everyone including her XD
RIP to my little Coraline.