I refuse to go down that path of darkness and wallow in my own self pity over something I can't really control. I used to do so and ended up in a ever tightening spiral of "I'm going to be alone forever." and "I'll never find my soul mate." till I hated myself and thought myself unlovable, either for my physical appearance, or my personality. So much so, that I wanted to end it all.
I am now working on loving myself and keeping my mood above those spiraling things. I absolutely refuse to be that person again. Its not a pretty thing to be. Now I am living under the mantra, "I don't need the love of another person to be happy." and its been a much happier existence.
“The day the power of love overrules the love of power, the world will know peace.”
― Mahatma Gandhi