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post #66711 of 71165 (permalink) Old 11-12-2013, 06:52 PM
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Sometimes I think not divorcing and existing in that state of limbo is worse.

We have a couple of friends where the parents absolutely hate each other but never got divorced and still share a house. It is such a toxic environment, and I think that forcing your kids to live through it, is so much worse than separating.

I never understood why these couples still live together. It's like one partner is just basically waiting for the other to die as neither one is willing to initiate a divorce.


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I don't understand being allowing yourself to be so miserable in those affairs.. I'm glad my parents separated (still legally married, mom still wears her ring for some pretend religious reasons)... Sometimes I chuckle thinking about my "father" off in the world without love. There's way worse things than divorce, and mental health is up there with number 1.

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Well, I'm glad to say that my parents aren't divorcing, but I do have to admit that they have problems that need to be solved (need to think about what's best for my sister) before their own needs.

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Sometimes I think not divorcing and existing in that state of limbo is worse.

We have a couple of friends where the parents absolutely hate each other but never got divorced and still share a house. It is such a toxic environment, and I think that forcing your kids to live through it, is so much worse than separating.

I never understood why these couples still live together. It's like one partner is just basically waiting for the other to die as neither one is willing to initiate a divorce.
I agree completely! My parents were in a miserable marriage and it was horrible for my brother and I. I remember them asking what we wanted for Christmas one year and we said "a divorce!" They finally ended up splitting when I was 20 and it was soooo much worse than it would have been if they had done it years before.

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I'm sorry to hear that, Chachi.

It's sad now, especially at school, because when students from split families gain influence from one parent, they are really mean about it. I know a person who wants her to.........well........kick the bucket because her mother always talk smack about him. When I met her mom, she was definetly not in the running for Miss Kindness.

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Adolescence can make kids mean. Developmentally, things are topsy turvy anyway but throw family problems in there and things hit the fan. In hindsight, I can see why we did a lot of what we did as teenagers. NEVER want to go back to being a teenager! aah, the hormones. For some demented reason though I should be teaching them in a year. ...

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Adolescence can make kids mean. Developmentally, things are topsy turvy anyway but throw family problems in there and things hit the fan. In hindsight, I can see why we did a lot of what we did as teenagers. NEVER want to go back to being a teenager! aah, the hormones. For some demented reason though I should be teaching them in a year. ...
Hehe, lol. My mom told me that I am more mature for my age, and I can see how naiive kids are these days. I could never do the "cliche" of staying way past curfew, getting a piercing that gets you grounded, or doing things that you'll regret in the future.

I couldn't never teach kids because of how much I know them. I would be on different sides of the table because I never did what they do.

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What I don't agree with is parents telling their kids 'your dad did this ' or 'your mom did that.' That is so unfair to the kids who don't want or need to hear that.
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Is anyone else really excited about the holidays? Not just Thanksgiving (USA), I mean the whole Christmas season. Normally I don't really care, and Christmas/holiday music usually drives me up the wall, but this year? This year I'm SO EXCITED. I don't know if it's the new kitty, being a newly wed, graduating in December, having my own place or what, but it's all I can do to not decorate the apartment before Thanksgiving (my husband would never forgive me). *Just two more weeks, two more weeks....*
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I like Christmas and always get excited about it. As commercialized as it has become I get two weeks off and get to eat a lot of great food hahaha. Most importantly I get to see all my family. I love New Years too... I always feel so motivated for about two weeks lol.

Christmas stuff in September and October though... Not so much.

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