I do hope that things work out for the best, whatever that may mean...
No matter what happens, trust that the best will happen. If you are meant to be together, you will be. If you are meant to be with someone else, you will be.
It could be like my cousin. He dated a girl in highschool for years. They broke up. He was heartbroken but he moved on after a while. He had to trust in the future, whether it meant he'd be with her or not. He met another girl, they were even engaged after a while. He loved her for sure too. But then it also fell apart. During that time of trouble he met that old highschool girlfriend again. They picked up their friendship right where it left off. They were friends for a reason after all, they had everything in common. Soon they got together again. There were some rough patches along the way(the ex fiance came back and demanded him choose between them), but now they are married and trying to have a baby! :)
Or it could be like my relationship. I had met the man I was sure I would marry, we had even been talking about buying our first apartment together and all the stuff that comes with marriage. We had been best friends for seven years even prior to the long relationship. But one day, it was over. My whole world seemed crushed. But I had to trust that the best would happen. At the time I thought that the best meant I'd get back with him like my cousin did with his girl, but I had decided to just let it happen and go through my life. Focus on my art, my friends, the things that were important to me that I could move forward with. A few years go by, and at this point I don't even care about having a boyfriend. I just was happy to live and love life and get ready for college. And of course that's exactly when I met Nathan. And unbelievably.. The moment we met, I felt those butterflies start to flutter and I found I felt more excited to see him than I ever did with my ex. He was so kind, he treated me like an angel, and truly had my best interests in mind. We became best friends within a week, staying up til 5 am on school nights just getting to know each other, because we could just never have enough time together. We're still like that, thank god our phone calls are free since we are on the same service. And the years we've been together have really only gotten better and better. If Ben hadn't discovered he was gay and broken up with me..I never would have met Nathan, and the happiest moments of my life would have never happened! Even though I thought it was the end of the world, it led me on to the future where I was happier than I had ever been.
The point is, don't get worked up too much about whether or not it works out..Because you will find that happiness. It feels like you're lost, but trust me..Just focus on the moment and have fun again. Go out with your friends, take care of your pets, do the things you want to do. The path you're on will lead you somewhere! And if you do what makes you happy and what you know will help in the future, you'll be going the right way and you can make the most of it. Trust me! I traveled that lost path for a long time. And I figured out, even though now I am in an amazing relationship again, that wasn't what it was all about, and I was able to find new friends and hobbies I wouldn't have found if I was only focused on boys and choosing the right one/winning the ex back. I tried..and I was the most unhappy then! When I started living for me and doing what I wanted to do and what I felt was right, that's when things started to look up. Same goes for my cousin. When he stopped worrying about his ex was when they were able to get close again.
You have a lot of people here to talk to :) Don't be afraid to pm anyone if you need to talk!
Last edited by purplemuffin; 10-19-2011 at 12:49 PM.