Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Fort Collins, CO
I myself am Catholic, and I'll try to answer your questions as best as I can.
Question #1: If we were to date, what am I to expect?
- I'm guessing that if he is strictly Catholic, physical intimacy is limited
- Are there certain foods one cannot eat?
- Things I should avoid talking about? (Science?)
Limited physical intimacy? Absolutely not! I've had my share of physically intimate moments, as have many Catholic friends of mine. Unless you're a priest, intimacy is not discouraged (intimacy with several different people is, but that's neither here nor there in this case).
Food - There's no certain food practices, aside from Lent; the 40 days before Easter, Catholics don't eat meat on Friday. The reasoning behind that is symbolism; in the Catholic faith, it's acknowledging Jesus' forty-day fast in the desert.
Despite what television says, Catholics are not opposed to science. I'd avoid Evolution as a topic, of course, since I have no idea what kind of people you'd be talking to. I'm perfectly okay with Evolution, myself. Personally, I've always believed that science justifies God's existence; if everything in the physical world can be explained by a mathematical equation, doesn't that imply some grand architect?
Question #2: Would his family be upset that I am not religious?
Hypothetically, if we were to end up dating (we are still just friends), would it cause tension/problems? I don't want to cause any problems between me and his family and ESPECIALLY between him and his family. Family is very important to me and the last thing I want to happen is that his gets torn up because of me
They might be or they might not be. I'm inclined to think the former, but if they are good family members, they will put his happiness above their discomfort. After all, it's his life and not theirs. My mom is Catholic and was upset that I was dating an atheist, but she never said a word about it while I was seeing the girl.
Most things depend on the personality rather than the belief system. I've known some awesome Christians who are very open to discussion. I've also encountered awful Christians who condemn you outright for even slightly mentioning something that doesn't mesh with their faith. My best advice is to treat them like you would any other person. You get a feel for them, they get a feel for you, and that's how you start getting along.
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