I don't find this silly at all, as I am having religious "issues" with my boyfriend of 11 years...it is literally driving a wedge between us. He was fine with me BEFORE but after meeting this "religious friends", let's just say they have tried for the past 9 or so years to break us up because I am not "one of them".
NTO THE DILEMMA and QUESTIONS.
Question #1: If we were to date, what am I to expect?
- I'm guessing that if he is strictly Catholic, physical intimacy is limited
- Are there certain foods one cannot eat?
- Things I should avoid talking about? (Science?)
Question #2: Would his family be upset that I am not religious?
Hypothetically, if we were to end up dating (we are still just friends), would it cause tension/problems? I don't want to cause any problems between me and his family and ESPECIALLY between him and his family. Family is very important to me and the last thing I want to happen is that his gets torn up because of me.
: It all depends on how religious he
is. Officially I'm catholic but that's about as far as it goes. Is he catholic in name only or is he a practicing catholic? And more importantly, does he know you are a buddist? If he does and is willing to accept that, I wouldn't worry too much. As for physical intimacy, again - it's a personal decision. He may be very strict and into the whole waiting till marriage thing, or he think waiting is an outdated practice.
As far as I know, there are no dietary restrictions that I recall except one is not supposed to eat meat during lent on fridays or so my grandmother would tell me when I was a kid. Not sure if it was just her or if its every catholic that is supposed to do that. All I know is I was a kid and I wanted pepperoni on my pizza
but she would say NO because of something to do with no meat during lent.
There aren't any topics that are off limits but there are some I would highly avoid such as abortion unless you know for a fact that you can have a civil discussion. I have a good online friend who is VERY strictly catholic. Our views on many of these topics are not the same but we are both accepting of others points of view so we can openly discuss and disagree on many of the "off limits" topics. However, many of my boyfriend's "religious buddies" are very closed minded and I could see us getting into a very violent argument on the same topics.
Unless they are like from the middle ages, I would think science wouldn't be off limits? maybe the big bang theory wouldn't be a great starter conversation though.
Question 2 - Again, it all depends on how religious his family is. I think it may of caused more of a problem in years past but I don;t think it would be such a problem today. However, again, it all depends on his family.
I think knowing these things ahead of time will save alot of heart ache later on. Like if he is going to want you to convert, are you going to be willing to do so? And if there are kids, how will they be raised? Now might be a little too soon since you guys aren't dating yet, but I would keep these questions in mind.
I think to get married in a catholic church you need to convert but since I have no desire to get married in a church of any kind, I never bothered to really look into it. My boyfriend was married before and he had to convert to being a Coptic to get married to her, but I am not sure if that was a requirement of getting married or if it was to keep her family happy. He never really talks about her and all I know is she was from Egypt. And Diabetic.
but I personally find it really annoying no one ever talks about religion just because it's "sensitive." That's a silly reason. Not talking about something doesn't bring any information or resolution to a topic. It also avoids scrutiny and being analyzed in that way.
Agreed. I was officially Lutheran but my other grandmother was upset with it so when I was 8 I was rebpatised Catholic to make her happy. personally, I don't care either way. I am not even sure I want to be Christian as it was never MY choice in the 1st place. I made it to communion and then decided no more.