Hi Lisa, Welcome to the forum! I am a new Bettaowner as well. My name is Kat. I just posted today with BettaKat1962, if you see this, "Hey Kat". My little girl is Aurora, no pics yet, they are coming. She is in a 10 gal soon to be sorority . It will be all Disney princess girls! Sorry to hear of your dilemma with the male, they sure are beautiful! Maybe in time you will consider a community!