Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Victoria, Australia
Well it depends on whether they are deliberately and consistently being abusive towards the cat or not.
Case in point, I throw stuff at our cats all the time if they are doing something naughty. The other day I smacked our cat with the dusting glove because she was deliberately stirring up the dogs. She ran upstairs and sulked for a while and that was it.
I hold our cats every which way when I'm playing around with them. One of our cats I carry around nearly upside down and he doesn't care. I also drop them on the ground from my arms as they nine times out of ten land on their feet. I don't hold them above my head and throw them onto the ground but there have been times when I've given someone the odd toss through a door.
Our old female cat used to hiss at you all the time. She'd run up to the door and hiss and scratch at you. Our old male cat growls if you pick him up or brush him. Both of those cats were/are extremely well-loved and cared for.
So I wouldn't base your opinions of neglect or poor pet ownership on a couple of observations. Now if you had seen them doing something like kicking the cat hard enough to injure it or the cat was starving because they weren't feeding it, then I would say that the cat was not being properly cared for.