I have been abused before, when I was very young (kindergarten aged). It's not something I hide anymore, but it is something I'd rather never go into details with. The thing is, though... is I was young and very resilient at the time, and the abuser has also been through treatment... I think this helped a lot, because he is a family member... Both of us, at the end, came out as different people, and it's not something that bothers me anymore, although I still don't want to share the details... But I also don't want him to be portrayed as a bad guy because of it, because I know he's changed. Knowing that he hasn't (in your case) probably doesn't help.
It must be different there, or something. I don't know anyone who takes any kind of domestic abuse lightly, be it emotional, verbal, or physical. I know it's difficult to take the advice, but I wouldn't be too worried about him doing anything in a public place. I know there's probably a place in the back of your mind that haunts you, and is driven by your past... Anxiety, of sorts. Worry about something that you cannot put your finger on.
It sucks, because, what it left you is something intangible that you have to deal with. It's not a concrete object, like a restraining order... You can hold those papers in your hand, and see them, and know they exist for a fact... but the emotional scars left behind from such an experience are not concrete, you cannot see them or touch them, and sometimes, you wonder if you're just crazy. You're not.
And what you see in him, although others do not see it... That's real, too. Intangible, but real, nonetheless. And it's not easily ignored.
I can't say I know EXACTLY how you feel, but I can say I've seen, and felt, a glimpse of it. I did many, many years of therapy and was hospitalized twice, interrogated by officers, countless psychiatrists, put on medications, nothing really helped until I figured it out on my own. This happened over 13 years ago.
I remember thinking, why am I the one they are trying to fix? They ask a ton of questions, but they are always asking the wrong ones, always going the opposite direction. And eventually, a few years after all the therapy and meds and psychiatrists ended, I figured it out on my own.
I don't know if that makes sense and I'm really not sure how to explain it...
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