Thanks, pilot & LBF. I don't often have, or talk about, this sort of problem so it's nice to get some words of wisdom on it.
You're 100% right, LBF, about the pretending thing.. this guy is The Great Pretender. A real a-hole. No, really. It annoys me that I am always giving him a chance to start acting like a decent human being and then he messes it up, over and again. I annoy myself more by letting it happen. If he would just quit doing that, we could get along and be really great friends, damn his eyes.
I am so sorry your parents had an awful breakup - their first 6 years as exes is very much, by the sound of it, like how it is between myself and Daughter's father, whom I cannot stand and would cheerfully drag behind a horse over ten acres of scotch thistles.
My answer to this is to avoid her Dad like the plague, so all that anger isn't spewing all over our house and on Daughter, who has had a hard enough time of it. I do hope one day that Super Deadbeatdad grows his fricken brain back and starts to once more passingly resemble the man I was married to for 16 years.... I doubt that will ever happen. But as mad as I am at him, I have to hope and remain open to the possibility of it, for Daughter's sake.
Pilot, it must by now sound like I sure can pick 'em... :D
Me and this guy I mentioned in the other post are just friends and have been for a long time now, it's just that he tends to not be very respectful or caring as a friend (though he was worse as a bf...). One of those charmers who is sooo charming and handsome you can forgive them almost anything -- to a point. I am just wondering if I am too far past that particular point these days to allow him to regain 'friend' status..
Really, if I am even having this level of doubt, it's an answer in itself, isn't it?
Speaking of dysfunctional relationships - Irish and Cole have this weird man-thing going on right now. Every night, Irish stands in front of Cole's tank and stirs him up, and Cole flares at Irish like a goon. Cole never does this for me. But the moment Irish steps up to the tank, Cole muscles over to stare at his "enemy" and flare at the ball of lint Irish uses to stir him up with. And it's obvious that both enjoy this moment of daily aggro immensely.
Men. They are weird, whatever the species.
Last edited by Aus; 10-10-2012 at 10:53 AM.