I know Hawaii has a 6 month quarentine for dogs so I doubt I would ever move there, plus the whole reason I left alaska is because its so damn expensive. I was paying over 1,000 a month for 280 sq feet of space and this housed me, my chinchilla and her big cage, my dog and 23 bettas in various sized tanks. I think Hawaii is more expensive then alaska.
The goldies are not at the surface gasping - they do it everywhere else though. Usually midlevel or at the bottom.
I don't even want to know what I would do if my sister (who is kinda like your mother) tried to kill my fish. Probably destroy her entire wardrobe (it's the only thing she seems to like/take pride in).
About 12 years ago she did flush my goldfish. She said it was diseased because his eyes had buldges. He was a black moore
I do NOT trust her with any living critter of mine. SHe is so freakin clueless and ignorant about their care, it's unreal.