How Do You Determine When and When NOT to Buy a Fish?
I'm currently having trouble. I absolutely love my current betta, Gyarados, but I've been seeing some dazzling fish on Aquabid, if that simply was the case, I'd be alright with my decision and wouldn't feel a lot of regret.
My problem is that I came across a beautiful Purple and Gold Half Moon King Betta in a PetCo that sadly died in the store after they refused to sell me the sick fish (it died later that night even after they treated it) and I know am aware that sometimes my local store gets incredible show-quality fish.
My initial problem was that I didn't know when to buy a fish from Aquabid (I can only afford to have one more betta fish). I've taken a liking to Plakats and Half Moons (especially copper colored) but have no idea when I should give in and finally buy one from the site.
Now I have the added pressure of knowing that my local store sells some incredible fish that interest me.
I don't know what to do! Whether to buy or just wait till I come across a fish that says "I AM THE ONE! BUY ME!" like I was prompted to do with the Half Moon King Betta that I sadly did not recover for me to bring home.
Currently, one of my biggest temptations is this guy on aquabid:
But he wasn't quite saying "I AM THE ONE! BUY ME!" but more like "I have captured your intense interest and you wish you could afford one more fish if you decided to buy me!". So I'm not sure whether to give in, or wait till I see the one that does say that from either my local store or aquabid.
So ultimately, I'm wondering from all of you is this:
How do you determine when and when NOT to buy a fish when you know you couldn't afford another one after it?
Picking out a fish is not like picking out new clothes. I do not buy just because the betta looks nice, for there are many attractive types of betta out there and it is impossible to have them all. Buying living things on impulse is bad. It is not good for the person or the animals, which is something I always consider. Personally, I am only in the position to have one betta. I currently do not have one, as I have no supplies up in my new apartment yet.
Once I have my tank brought to me and am ready I will begin to look for a fish. I already know my preferred breeds, crowntails and halfmoons, as well as my preferred colors, yellows and other brights. I will keep an eye out for a betta that meets my preferences. I will come across many that I like and think are beautiful but unless I see one that I absolutely bond with immediately, I will not buy. I get one fish and that's that for the next 5 years it lives.
I judge my income, above all else. I am a student, about to enter grad school. I currently have a sparsely houred job that pays me once a month. I am hemorrhaging money because of this and cannot afford to make impulse buys I will later be unhappy with. Knowing my limits keeps me in line. I have many other responsibilities that I consider before buying a betta, such as finding a steadier job. Maybe one day when I have my own house/apartment, stable income, and permanent living situation, I can consider more than one betta if I have the time to properly care and love them equally.
I'm not sure if Sivan mentioned it, but in addition to income, I would take into consideration how much time and energy I have. I currently do not have enough time and/or energy to maintain another aquarium. I already have enough for my personal limits as far as water changes go. I probably would lose interest if I added anymore aquariums at this point, even though I would like to set up a sorority one day.
I am also a student. I found, however, that my time and job situation don't seem as hectic as yours currently is, Sivan. I know I have enough to take care (and already have the resources for) another fish. I have another tank with another filter and everything. I find that maintaining my tank takes me half an hour at most if I want to completely take it apart, clean it, et cetera, and all of that.
Though one of the things you implied is important is something I greatly agree with. My current betta fish, Gyardos (pictured) was a fish I never expected to get. He's mostly red (and was even more red when I first got him) and was a double tail. I usually like crowns and half-moons (and I have a new found love with plakats). I don't really like betta fish colored red since they seem so common. But Gyarados caught my eye because he followed my movements and made little snappy motions with his mouth whenever I got close. I got him for his personality.
And Rosso, I only have one betta fish (but I have two tanks). I find it'd be no problem to get another fish with my current situation and that I have the time and dedication to take care of one (but I will not get a third which is why it adds another pressure to get the one I really want).
But so far it seems you guys make your decision like I probably should. Unless I find an instant connection, I shouldn't buy it. I absolutely love the look of this betta fish, but it didn't scream out to me like I should get it but merely to "give it consideration". So I'll probably just wait longer. :)
Thank you guys. I still would love to hear how other people determine when and when not to get another fish too.
It's a difficult thing to resist a new betta. I am glad to hear that you are thinking things through thoroughly before buying.
Unfortunately, there is a Petco where I usually gas up my car in one of the cities I sometimes pass through. On my way home today, I found myself stopping by for "just a quick look". There was a gorgeous, cambodian, crowntail female sitting in her cup. She was lively and active when I inspected her. I wanted that fish... but I'm questioning where I would put her tank and whether I am dedicated to the upkeep of another tank. Just have to let that one go.
I'm with you, True Indigo. I see an attractive fish, and I want it, but I don't fall in love with it. Some fish, on the other hand, just tug at my heart, and I frequently don't know why. For instance, I turned down the most beautiful white delta male in favour of my royal blue and red girl Athena for no reason other than that I knew she was the one.
Of course, I take care not to fall in love unless I have tank space. :p I don't know how - it's not that I avoid looking, but somehow I harden my heart against their little pleas. Then when I do have a tank, I open my heart back up again and listen to the begging coming from each little tank...
Of course, sometimes all the heart-hardening in the world isn't enough, and you end up leaving THE fish at the shop. :(
Yeah I'm definitely thinking this through and thank you, Rosso. :) It seems like when you come across the right fish, you just know.
And Bombalurina, I definitely get what you mean, which is why I found a sign to get one more fish. Found a reduced price on a ten gallon tank, it was only missing it's cover and came EXTRA with a heater (I can get a lid for it easily). Got it for half off with a quite flow filter, 50 watt heater, conditioner, net, et cetera. Now that I know I have the tank for another fish (I can even make a small community), I am letting my heart open, but only for the THE fish.
I'm another one who goes with my heart. When I decided to get my first betta, I went into the store looking for a male.
But there were three females, and one had markings that made her look like she had a sweet little smile on her face, when viewed from the side. That little face tugged at my heart so hard! She wasn't as flashy as the boys and her colours were a little dull, but I couldn't leave without her.
Fast forward several months, she's so full of energy and recognises me when I walk into the room and her colours have even brightened with the high-quality and varied diet I've been feeding her.
My other girls were obtained via aquabid so I didn't get to interact with them beforehand, but I kind of waited for the jaw-drop factor and the tug at the heartstrings while looking through the available females. I knew I'd made the right choices when I found the ones that made me think, "I'm going to be a little bit heat-broken if someone else wins her."
Here's to hoping you find the right fish soon! Please post pictures when you do! <3
The one thing that's stopping me from impulse buying the stunning dragon scale in my LFS is my other half. He's keeping me grounded otherwise I'd have bought that fish today even though I don't have the time or money to look after another aquarium. Also, my spare needs some tlc before I can put anything in there.
Picking Kyon was easy. I went out specifically to get a betta but said to myself that if one didn't "speak" to me then I would walk away and leave it until my lfs got new stock. Kyon chose me. He came to the glass straight away and flared for me. He also had the nicest colour. There were 2 other blues but his just stood out to me as its a much colder blue than the royal blue that seems to be most common. My other half would like a red veil tail or crown tail when we are ready for another. (listen to me talking like we're preparing for a baby haha).