Originally Posted by ZergyMonster
This here is why I don't talk about my fish tanks on this forum because I know that I will berated by the "stuff" that I need. Personally I think that information is great to receive but it needs to be handled differently. I've seen people with great intentions 'tell' people what they need instead of 'suggesting' improvement.
I will say, though, that I am grateful for all the information I was given through this community because I now have 5 balanced and thriving fish tanks that I love to look at and work on. It is the newer members that need a small lesson on conveyance of information to quit rubbing other members the wrong way.
The bold part made me laugh and is so true.
Zergy...I agree...not about this site...I havent been on here very long and most ppl have been very pleasant and helpful :) but I have been on other fish forums and have been very disapointed with their attitudes :( being out of fish for a few years and just getting back into it and trying to do things right can be difficult when ppl corner you and make you feel terrible. This is probably a good time for ppl to re-evaluate the way they communicate with others...remember everyone...you began learning somewhere, you werent born with perfect ability to care for fish...you learned by listening to others or by making mistakes yourself...give ppl a chance, dont judge and try to kindly help :) ...Everyone is different, they have different circumstances financially and through their home life...I think as long as the betta has clean water and a heater they are better off then when they were in a cup in the pet store. Encourage ppl to provide what they can for their betta but dont knock down or discourage others by putting down others tanks/equipment or fish. When we are warm and welcoming we are encouraging others to be open with their thoughts and questions inturn educating them and improving the life of their fish which is the purpose of this site right? Just for the record, I love everyones tanks and bowls, I offer suggestions and if you ask if a tank will or wont work i give my opinion, but I love seeing all the different tanks and bowls no matter how big or how small as long as the fish is well cared for, happy and healthy! I hope no one feels they need to "hide" their fish or aquariums, just because one person says something negative doesnt mean we all will :)