UPDATE***
Fae looks exactly the same now. I guess his/her anal fin is deformed because it never grew in, it's still jagged looking. I really want to start a sorority so I'm still trying to figure out what he or she is. No more huge bubble nests but their are sparse random bubbles around the tank. I got a female today and I put her in the 10gal with Fae and watched very closely to see what happened. They didn't react to each other when she was acclimating. So I put her in and they pretty much ignored each other. There was some following and flaring by Fae. Fae would spread out all his/her fins and flared but the beard hardly came out at all. Any ideas as to the sex? They are separated now. Help??