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Old 12-18-2012, 11:05 AM   #181 
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It sounds like you find an interest and you hyper-focus on it. Its a form of stimulation. When you dont have something to focus on in an extreme way you are unstimulated which can lead to anxiety and depression. The key is to stick to positive things to hyper-focus on.
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Old 12-18-2012, 11:09 AM   #182 
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It sounds like you find an interest and you hyper-focus on it. Its a form of stimulation. When you dont have something to focus on in an extreme way you are unstimulated which can lead to anxiety and depression. The key is to stick to positive things to hyper-focus on.
Yep that's exactly what I do and that is what happens. That is a big part of Asperger's, isn't it? That and the extreme anxiety over changes.

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Old 12-18-2012, 11:27 AM   #183 
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Its common for several mental "disorders". I know with adhd or add hyper-focus is a "symptom" also change is very difficult to adapt to when I am not the one making the decision for the change to happen. My son deals with it as well. I cant tell him "stop what youre doing and come to dinner" i have to give hum a 10 and 5 minute heads up so he can adapt to that change at his pace. Immediate change doesnt work in my household. He would hyper focus on his video games so we make sure HE sets the timer for 20 minutes so he has part of the control for his own security and emotional adaptability.

Im glad you recognize these areas you deal with because they are easier to make work for you in a positive way when you know they exist.
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Old 12-18-2012, 01:26 PM   #184 
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Thank you very much. I really appreciate it. Do you think you have Aspergers too? Or something else?
Suspecting i have aspergers, i abbreviated it as AS in my other post as that is how i have seen it abbreviated in a lot of what i read.
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Old 12-18-2012, 01:31 PM   #185 
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Suspecting i have aspergers, i abbreviated it as AS in my other post as that is how i have seen it abbreviated in a lot of what i read.
What makes you think you have it?
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Old 12-18-2012, 01:58 PM   #186 
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in a one on one setting i can usually conversat with people, but bring others into the equation and i have a lot of trouble relating to waht is being said, i also find it very hard to talk to people that i dont know very well, at my new job i wanted to tell people about going to the aquarium over the weekend, but I couldnt find the words to start the conversation. When music is too loud or there is too much happening i tend to shut down, i referred to these as my "bad days" until i learned about aspergers, Some of the times that i really end up shutting down is when i am out in public in large crowds, like events downtown and at the store, I will get like a fog in my brain and look down at my feet and speak softly saying to my girlfriend(if she is with me) or outloud to myself "I just wanna go home, i just wanna go home" Some of the things that also set this off is someone bumping into me, usually i can deal with it for a while, but when it get to be too much, if i dont make it home to mellow out i usually end up not saying anything at all other than a few words here and there that make little sense, and when i get home i usually end up sitting in my favorite chair curled up and slightly rocking back and forth till i feel okay again. I am incredible tactile defensive, there are some things that even the thought of touching makes me cringe, like micro-fiber cloth, and this one blanket that my mother got me a few years ago when i started college. There are also a lot of foods i will not eat, because of their texture, like cooked carrots. I tend to not understand when someone says something funny, or there are times i will say something that i mean seriously, but the way it comes out people laugh and think i am being funny. When a new topic cathes my interest that is the only thing that i will focus on, learning all i can about it, and even after i have learned everythinh i can find i still crave more information about it. I have a collection of movie memoribilllia, i hae always liked to collect things like that, and i always worry that the things i like wont always be around or available. I say a lot of things to people, things that are on my mind, that they can take as being rude, but really i am just saying what i think. I also have found that i repeat myself and people often, or if i dont outright repeat what someone tells me i will mouth it back to them, i dont look people in the eyes, instead i will look past them or watch their mouth or hands or what ever. I often get overwhelmed by emotions, like so many things coming in at once that i cant process it, I also dont always know what emotion i am feeling. WHen things do upset me, it is very hard for me to communicate that, and a lot of more "abstract" questions are lost on me, such as "what did you do today" my responce is usually "stuff" or "Idunno" but when formed more direct such as "i would like you to tell me about your day" i get it and the information comes out like an open flood gate. WHen i get upset, anything that someone says will feel like a direct attack, even if deep down i know they are trying to help. two days ago I got overwhelmed at a store looking for clay and just sat down on the floor, my girlfriend went to ask the employees where the clay was and that made me upset and made me feel like i couldnt find it on my own. that escalated to me wandering around the store even after i had the clay, barely making it home, she asked me to do the dishes cause i was hungry and that set me into a wreck and i just ended up curled up in my hoodie with the hood over my head in my favorite chair crying like none other muttering something along the lines of "i didnt do" over and over again, until i slumped over sideways and went silent for a bit, then got up fine and dandy and did some dishes like nothing hd hapened.

just a few reasons i think i may have it

Edit--I also tend to be better at communicating on forums online or via text message with people than in person, i will even email my boss about something rather than ask in person.

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Old 12-18-2012, 02:09 PM   #187 
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Wow. Have almost all of the symptoms you do. Also Whenever I am with more than one person I tend to feel ignored or like no one is listening to me and I get my feelings hurt.
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Old 12-18-2012, 02:14 PM   #188 
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The past few days I have been really stressing out because of the thought of New Life Spectrum changing their formula or ceasing to make the betta formula. I don't know what I would do if that happened :(
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I can completely relate to that. I was worried that the heater that i use wont always be around if the one i have now breaks, i also worry that the carnivorous plants i have wont be available next summer so if any of mine die i will be out of luck in one of my favorite hobbies.
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Old 12-18-2012, 02:20 PM   #190 
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Wow. Have almost all of the symptoms you do. Also Whenever I am with more than one person I tend to feel ignored or like no one is listening to me and I get my feelings hurt.
THIS! the other day my girlfriend had some friends over and i asked if after the movie they were watching was over if they could leave because i was getting tired, and no one even acknowledged what i had said.
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