Originally Posted by BeckyFish97
Well its been an amazing christmas, only one rant is that i went out with my family on christmas eve and encountered a bunch of lecherous guys
i was wearing my lbd which is actually not that little, and i was walking up the street gripping my brother'sarm toprevent me slipping in any ice when i walked past these guys and they started wolf whistling (for the record i am a lady not a dog) then one of them shouted you can do better than that (meaning that they thought my brother was my bf) i was thinking yes youre right because a: its my brother and b: those guys werent even close to my standards (lol) butto be completely honest the whole scene as a 15yr old girl made me feel dirty and actually upset me a lot
now ifeel like i cant wear thatdress again which is wrong because it is perfectly respectable, and yet there are still wierdo's out there that think its ok to say stuff like that to a girlroughly 6 years younger than them
lol more of a moan than a rant but hey ho
Ps: sorry for all the typos got a tablet forchristmas and im still getting used tothesmaller keyboard
Aww, sweetie that sucks :/
It's happened to me before too. I don't get why guys think it's flattering. In the day and age we live in, it's just frightening and it always makes me feel ashamed and hurt even when I have no reason too. I'm sure you looked awesome in that dress, but you wore it for yourself, not for them!
Catcalls and street harassment are an extension of a culture that treats women's bodies as things, products for male consumption. A catcall makes a statement - that you are a thing open for any kind of male attention. That's why it hurts so d*** much. It makes you feel like a thing.
The good news is that we're not things and that our bodies belong to us and only us. And while it may be hard, I think women would manage better if we stand up to these kinds of calls when we feel safe enough to do so. You don't have to have a conversation, but if you're passing by, just a quick "That's degrading/My name's not 'baby'/I'm not your dog" etc.
And then come here and tell us all about it because we love you