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Old 01-04-2013, 02:38 PM   #16131 
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I think our old cat is really sick. He was going over to our neighbours and eating rotten meat and then throwing up everything we gave him to eat that day. He was looking like a walking skeleton, so we confined him to the house and wormed him.

He was starting to gain some weight back when last night he threw this massive heap of bile and food. Now he won't eat anything, not even his favourite foods and he is just sleeping up on my bed.

I'm so worried it's going to be cancer or his kidneys. I don't currently have the money to take him to the vet otherwise I would have, and my mum keeps putting it off which makes me extremely angry.

She has a cat that has had thousands of dollars poured into him and a dog that when it had a torn ear had $500 worth of stitches put in. Yet our poor old cat who has only ever had one large vet bill in his 12 or so years of life doesn't even get to go in for a check-up. Then when I get on her case about it, she starts telling me if it is something that is going to cost a lot of money he is just going to get put down.

I know she most likely doesn't mean it (she once had a day old chick taken in to have its leg stitched up) but it sounds horrible and the only reason she puts it off is because our cat has long fur so you can't see that he looks really pathetic.

Hopefully she will book him in for a vet visit in the next day or so. I think I'm the only person in the house who really likes our old cat as he has a crazy personality and can be a bit senile and annoying. But at least he knows how to use a litter tray even after 12 years of living predominately outside, unlike our two resident sprayers.
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Old 01-04-2013, 02:56 PM   #16132 
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I'm pretty sure the point of my post was to take it with a grain of salt. You don't need a book (nor myself) to tell you that people are not cookie cutter. I was mainly just trying to say you can't just blame another person for sparking conflict when it can just be a misunderstanding between two harmless actions. However from many observations of many couples I know, in the end, it is usually over the same thing. The girl always misinterprets what a guy is trying to say because he says something without thinking and it always sparks problems. (Ironically like my post, lolololol)

On the other hand, I actually know a few couples who are the OPPOSITE. The guy is always freaking out about what his girlfriend says when she has a totally harmless meaning, and he's digging for some hidden meaning. Then of course there are the people who function normally as people (i.e. my ex and myself) mainly because he was a tad more feminine than most guys I know. My new boyfriend is the total opposite; very masculine and very straightforward. He doesn't take hints very well so I generally have to be upfront with him, which I don't mind doing :P

As for a previous relationship making one bitter...the same thing happened to me. My ex-bf said that we were going to try long distance, but in the end, he dumped me out of random before our anniversary and just left me to hang out in the open. I was bitter for a long time. However the key thing to take away from life is to "Learn from your past; don't live in it." I'm sure you are a wonderful person MadameDesu, don't let that past relationship of yours get in the way of showing a new person just how beautiful your soul is.

Thanks a lot for your kind words!
Related rant: It's true what they say - hindsight really is 20/20. After being apart for sometime I realized that it was a bad relationship. He swore he loved me an I think he believed he did, but didn't treat me that way. Turns out he was lying about a lot of things and that he was addicted to porn. That then explained why I felt so alone in the relationship. He said he loved me, and probably did at some point, but it just devolved into lust and trying to push me into sexual activities that I wasn't ready for. And it made me uncomfortable and I thought there was something wrong with me, but it's so obvious now that HE was the one with the problem.
Thinking that you know a guy, only to realize you've been deceived and treated poorly and disrespectfully ... That hurts :/
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Old 01-04-2013, 05:40 PM   #16133 
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I'm pretty sure the point of my post was to take it with a grain of salt. You don't need a book (nor myself) to tell you that people are not cookie cutter. I was mainly just trying to say you can't just blame another person for sparking conflict when it can just be a misunderstanding between two harmless actions. However from many observations of many couples I know, in the end, it is usually over the same thing. The girl always misinterprets what a guy is trying to say because he says something without thinking and it always sparks problems. (Ironically like my post, lolololol)

On the other hand, I actually know a few couples who are the OPPOSITE. The guy is always freaking out about what his girlfriend says when she has a totally harmless meaning, and he's digging for some hidden meaning. Then of course there are the people who function normally as people (i.e. my ex and myself) mainly because he was a tad more feminine than most guys I know. My new boyfriend is the total opposite; very masculine and very straightforward. He doesn't take hints very well so I generally have to be upfront with him, which I don't mind doing :P

As for a previous relationship making one bitter...the same thing happened to me. My ex-bf said that we were going to try long distance, but in the end, he dumped me out of random before our anniversary and just left me to hang out in the open. I was bitter for a long time. However the key thing to take away from life is to "Learn from your past; don't live in it." I'm sure you are a wonderful person MadameDesu, don't let that past relationship of yours get in the way of showing a new person just how beautiful your soul is.
Oops...I thought it was obvious I was attacking the book (and the genre it belongs to) and not you directly. ^_^;

I didn't think that example was your view of men and women. I knew that it was an example of what the book contains. That's why I used it as the basis of my pre-rant. I'm mad at the book and its genre, not you.
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Old 01-04-2013, 05:42 PM   #16134 
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Old 01-04-2013, 06:21 PM   #16135 
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With all the talk about men and women being different from one another, I kinda feel compelled to jump on the bandwagon of denouncing these sorts of ideas. On top of the fact that these ways of thinking don't take transgender (or gender-fluid) people into account, as someone else has already said, there's also those of us who just don't fit into either pidgeonhole. I have only ever been feminine when forced to, or when I felt it would be inappropriate if I didn't feminize myself in some way (special occasions: dresses, makeup etc.) which is a subject I have a whole other beef with (if I, say, wore a suit to a special event because being hyper-feminine just ain't me, the completely unrelated topic of my sexual orientation would be brought into question, wouldn't it?). My friends have frequently called me a "man with breasts" in the past. Interesting that they say that, rather than simply a "person". I am female, but don't fit into society's idea of what female should be.

Bringing that round to someone else's point about dating sites being ridiculous, it's made finding a date very difficult in the past. It would seem that those sites only really work if you fit into cookie-cutter ideals of what you should look/behave/be like for your age, gender and hobbies.

All this ties in for my rant about today. The idea of "decency". To me, someone who is decent is someone with good morals, who stands by them. Someone who is polite, courteous and kind to other people. It has nothing to do with what they choose to wear (or not to wear).

I had an argument on a social media site with a friend of a friend about this. He kept claiming that women should cover up because it's "decent" and "we're not animals". Well, actually we are, we're just more evolved animals, we're still mammals, an offshoot of primates. That argument doesn't really stand. As for covering up being "decent", I don't agree with it. I adhere to that standard because I must, but would rather that the focus of decency be put on people's behaviour rather than their state of undress, because we're all born with the same bits, depending on gender, and we're only taught that they're naughty, or that they're taboo.

It is that same idiocy regarding anatomy that's brought a lot of grief to women, and a lot of stupid ideas about men ("they can't control themselves when confronted with a scantily-clad woman" - pffffft, they have enough cognitive function to control themselves, I can assure you of that, some have just been taught that they don't have to, which is a massive shame). It would seem much more fitting to apply the "we're not animals" logic to this, in that as a species, we're better than what people say about an entire gender: men are most certainly capable of controlling their behaviour, regardless of what a woman is wearing.

I apologise for going on for so long, I just feel very strongly about this subject. In no situation, ever, is it okay to pull the "but she was wearing..." argument. I've seen far too many people damaged from this ridiculous attitude.


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Old 01-04-2013, 06:26 PM   #16136 
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OMGGGGG!!! Why won't my bobby pins stay PUT! I even criss-crossed them to lock them together so they won't slip. And STILL they slip!! ARGGHHH!!!

I sound like a gorilla I know, but I have had this same issue since I first started using bobby pins >.<.
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Old 01-04-2013, 06:27 PM   #16137 
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OMGGGGG!!! Why won't my bobby pins stay PUT! I even criss-crossed them to lock them together so they won't slip. And STILL they slip!! ARGGHHH!!!

I sound like a gorilla I know, but I have had this same issue since I first started using bobby pins >.<.
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Old 01-04-2013, 06:31 PM   #16138 
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With all the talk about men and women being different from one another, I kinda feel compelled to jump on the bandwagon of denouncing these sorts of ideas. On top of the fact that these ways of thinking don't take transgender (or gender-fluid) people into account, as someone else has already said, there's also those of us who just don't fit into either pidgeonhole. I have only ever been feminine when forced to, or when I felt it would be inappropriate if I didn't feminize myself in some way (special occasions: dresses, makeup etc.) which is a subject I have a whole other beef with (if I, say, wore a suit to a special event because being hyper-feminine just ain't me, the completely unrelated topic of my sexual orientation would be brought into question, wouldn't it?). My friends have frequently called me a "man with breasts" in the past. Interesting that they say that, rather than simply a "person". I am female, but don't fit into society's idea of what female should be.

Bringing that round to someone else's point about dating sites being ridiculous, it's made finding a date very difficult in the past. It would seem that those sites only really work if you fit into cookie-cutter ideals of what you should look/behave/be like for your age, gender and hobbies.

All this ties in for my rant about today. The idea of "decency". To me, someone who is decent is someone with good morals, who stands by them. Someone who is polite, courteous and kind to other people. It has nothing to do with what they choose to wear (or not to wear).

I had an argument on a social media site with a friend of a friend about this. He kept claiming that women should cover up because it's "decent" and "we're not animals". Well, actually we are, we're just more evolved animals, we're still mammals, an offshoot of primates. That argument doesn't really stand. As for covering up being "decent", I don't agree with it. I adhere to that standard because I must, but would rather that the focus of decency be put on people's behaviour rather than their state of undress, because we're all born with the same bits, depending on gender, and we're only taught that they're naughty, or that they're taboo.

It is that same idiocy regarding anatomy that's brought a lot of grief to women, and a lot of stupid ideas about men ("they can't control themselves when confronted with a scantily-clad woman" - pffffft, they have enough cognitive function to control themselves, I can assure you of that, some have just been taught that they don't have to, which is a massive shame). It would seem much more fitting to apply the "we're not animals" logic to this, in that as a species, we're better than what people say about an entire gender: men are most certainly capable of controlling their behaviour, regardless of what a woman is wearing.

I apologise for going on for so long, I just feel very strongly about this subject. In no situation, ever, is it okay to pull the "but she was wearing..." argument. I've seen far too many people damaged from this ridiculous attitude.

I completely agree.
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With all the talk about men and women being different from one another, I kinda feel compelled to jump on the bandwagon of denouncing these sorts of ideas. On top of the fact that these ways of thinking don't take transgender (or gender-fluid) people into account, as someone else has already said, there's also those of us who just don't fit into either pidgeonhole. I have only ever been feminine when forced to, or when I felt it would be inappropriate if I didn't feminize myself in some way (special occasions: dresses, makeup etc.) which is a subject I have a whole other beef with (if I, say, wore a suit to a special event because being hyper-feminine just ain't me, the completely unrelated topic of my sexual orientation would be brought into question, wouldn't it?). My friends have frequently called me a "man with breasts" in the past. Interesting that they say that, rather than simply a "person". I am female, but don't fit into society's idea of what female should be.

Bringing that round to someone else's point about dating sites being ridiculous, it's made finding a date very difficult in the past. It would seem that those sites only really work if you fit into cookie-cutter ideals of what you should look/behave/be like for your age, gender and hobbies.

All this ties in for my rant about today. The idea of "decency". To me, someone who is decent is someone with good morals, who stands by them. Someone who is polite, courteous and kind to other people. It has nothing to do with what they choose to wear (or not to wear).

I had an argument on a social media site with a friend of a friend about this. He kept claiming that women should cover up because it's "decent" and "we're not animals". Well, actually we are, we're just more evolved animals, we're still mammals, an offshoot of primates. That argument doesn't really stand. As for covering up being "decent", I don't agree with it. I adhere to that standard because I must, but would rather that the focus of decency be put on people's behaviour rather than their state of undress, because we're all born with the same bits, depending on gender, and we're only taught that they're naughty, or that they're taboo.

It is that same idiocy regarding anatomy that's brought a lot of grief to women, and a lot of stupid ideas about men ("they can't control themselves when confronted with a scantily-clad woman" - pffffft, they have enough cognitive function to control themselves, I can assure you of that, some have just been taught that they don't have to, which is a massive shame). It would seem much more fitting to apply the "we're not animals" logic to this, in that as a species, we're better than what people say about an entire gender: men are most certainly capable of controlling their behaviour, regardless of what a woman is wearing.

I apologise for going on for so long, I just feel very strongly about this subject. In no situation, ever, is it okay to pull the "but she was wearing..." argument. I've seen far too many people damaged from this ridiculous attitude.

This is the whole India rape protest in a nutshell. We live in a day and age where we are challenging traditions and social paradigms. There are people who will continually stick to the "olden ways" of thinking and ruin the advancement of the human species.

Personally, I find that there are too many situations where it's a problem with teaching our children what is correct; we see new parents who leave their children to learn solely by schools and lack enrichment in their daily lives. Our children are being exposed to the internet and technology at earlier and earlier ages to the point that they are more likely to have their faces stuck to a screen then looking at their surroundings. Exposing them to things that they are not ready for (violence, gore, explicit language and adult entertainment).

If we as parents, brothers and sisters can help bring the level of understanding to the new generation up, and give them excitement to learn and explore we have a much better chance of reaching a world where greed and hatred are not as prevalent.

This is my rant because I was fortunate enough to have a mother and father who taught me when I was young beyond what I learned at school and that got me to explore and wonder about the world and its possibilities. I feel bad every time I see a story on the news about how something horrible is happening on this world, but I do know as well that the news is a source of propaganda that shows the worst of the world to jerk and pull at people's emotions.

I am lucky and fortunate. And I'm truly thankful for that.

Sorry, I got a little side tracked on this rant.
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