so i drove straight home after work and went immediately to clean out the whole tank. when i got home the tank looked so dirty!! dirtier then before the water change i did the previous night!! threw away the rocks, threw aways the decor, keeping the tiki statue but not in the tank (it was a gift to me from my brother when we went to hawaii). did a full water change, full scrub down of the inside, and of the heater and the filter, put in a new filter just in case any bad stuff made its way into and past the filter, added 10ml of the my nitrate reducer. turned back on the filter and heater. after an hour i threw in the oto catfish but my betta is still in an isolation tank sitting on the top of the tank so he will be heated. during the change i put him in a small tank with the old water, it looked so gross. he didnt like the move/and or water and was moving franticly for awhile. after i cleaned the 10g tank i was able to put in some clean tap water for him.
i think i will wait just a full day til i add him to the tank, i just feel bad for him sitting in that small tank, he's barely moving. while he is more photogenic not moving around; now that i think about it i rather have him swimming around exploring the tank and its hiding spots, interacting with his neighbors. maybe i was too quick to judge and say he was being hyper, a better call would have been he was just curious of his new surroundings.
i just remembered that my coworker's husband is a fish owner too. i will ask them they have some water conditioner. i did do them the favor of looking after their cat, dog and fish while they were away for the holidays. and on friday i will get my own along with some appropriate/safe decor for my tank.
thank u all for the advice i appreciate it. i will continue to expand my knowledge and the quality of my tank and redeem myself as a responsible betta owner. expect to see me on the board more often :)