If the male is just laying there and showing no interest, it probably means she isn't near ready to breed. Or he could be stressed by it, or he isn't ready to breed.. he should have enough energy to flare/dance for hours and then spend days taking care of the eggs/fry with no food.
What were you feeding during conditioning, and how were you conditioning exactly?
I wouldn't release her until the male is flirting and trying to lure her to the nest, and she is being submissive and full of eggs.. otherwise you run the risk of them attacking one another.
I prefer the tank so I can see what is going on, but I have best success breeding (virgins) in a bowl/small plastic container (no hiding spots) within the 10g which I will then transfer the fry over at a certain point to the tank. So methods vary upon each fish and breeder. I would try the tank route first though - cover up the front/sides with a few wash cloths or dish towels (I just tape them on the outside with masking tape) to make sure the fish don't get disturbed during the process.. sneak peeks every hour or so to see if they are breeding (a process which could take hours to complete), so then you can remove the female as soon as they are done.
Breeding is 95% patience, especially when the fish and breeder are first timers.. we've all been there and still are in many ways when it comes to some of the fish. So don't give up - find what works best for you.