Originally Posted by 1fish2fish
Look. This is a big mean nasty world. If your gonna get upset over some random person on the internet maybe you shouldn't be logging on.
Now if the above post seems harsh or mean I'm sorry. I'm not one to sugar coat, I am direct, I call things like I see them. A lot of members here are similar... maybe if y'all stuck around longer than a month you'd learn that. It doesn't mean we are not nice people and it doesn't mean we hate you and want you to leave.... quite to the contrary. I'm actually a very nice person but I'm not fake and I will not beat around the bush and say "oh your tank is lovely but um.. if it's not too much of an inconvenience.. um.. maybe you might possibly consider um.. ". To really know a forum you have to stick around longer than just a few weeks.
I'm not upset completely. Really I wanted one question answered but got both a wrong answer and advice I didn't ask for. Not that I don't appreciate the extra advice, but by the way I read the responses, it sounded quite smart-aleck(sp?) and just... up-front harsh. "I'm sorry I don't have this, but if I switched some things around it'd be better for all the fish." And yet I still get smart responses.
Like another user said, maybe it's just the way I read them. But like another said, the more members there are, the fewer people there are who will actually think about the person's feelings and try to start the conversation lightly.
And I didn't quit the site. I've been on here longer than a month. I don't think anyone's deliberately trying to make me or any of the others leave.
This just wasn't the stress-reliever I needed when I get back after a week of being unplugged. The way a person feels reflects on how well they take care of their fish. Lately work is having me do way more hours despite others who want more hours, and the need to train myself before I get into the military isn't getting met. Fish are my stress reliever. And they're all I have. (And Samm.) I want nothing for the best for them, and I'll do the best I can for them with what I have and can afford to get with each paycheck.
And I'll never ask a person to be fake. But is it really that hard to try to type the way you really want to say it? ALL CAPS-ING some words often comes across as yelling.
Yelling doesn't come across as paying a little respect.
... And geez, I should have never gone to that Psychology class. |D