Originally Posted by Bettas DESERVE BETTER
yet i still see people on here posting pictures of their betta's in JARS - and then they wonder why im being so cruel in my posts? ironic really isnt it? me having an opinion and trying to make things better seems like im the bad guy
One thing I learned over the years is this: it's not what
you say, it's how
you say. I understand that you have a passion for this, and that's fine and good. Everyone should have a passion for something. But if you approach someone in a confrontational manner, you're not going to receive thanks. People don't like to be told they're cruel, because it implies that they're a bad person. Most instances here are not cruelty; they're born of a lack of knowledge or misinformation, neither of which is ever malicious. Treat those people as students rather than blasting them outright. For example:
"Keeping your betta in that is CRUEL!"
"Your betta would be happier in a larger tank, and less likely to have any health problems."
The first is more likely to put someone on the defensive, as it is accusatory. Is it sad that the betta is in a small container? Yes. Unfair? You bet! But cruel... that implies malicious intent, and I doubt very much that anyone here is malicious. The second, on the other hand, points out their error and offers a solution without delving into accusations. The best thing you can do to avoid looking like the bad guy (despite good advice) is to ask yourself this before posting: "Do I want to berate and punish this person for their error, or do I want to put them on the right path?"