Yea, I just hope that isn't why he is depressed. He was 25 when we got together. He told me all he wanted was to fall in love and be married and own his own home by now. He has accomplished both. I am hoping it isn't because of his sister getting pregnant. She is his little sister (26). I have been asking him if he is affected by seeing her have a child. I always get a "no she's crazy" in response of course.
Both of us want to wait to have kids because we want both degrees. He wants an Associate's and I want my doctorate. That isn't easy to get with a kid. I don't know if I ever want one since that will put a huge damper on my doctorate. I have a ten to fifteen year goal to get it and one of my Proffessors basically told me I was nuts for going for it. He said a Doctorate in Business is "highly agressive, difficult to achieve and rare" and told me good luck, lol. He doesn't realize just how stubborn I am.
Anyways, Jeff and I having a baby would cause our educational dreams to be put on hold since we would have to be at the doctor's constantly and I would have to avoid stress since I would be high risk. Genetically, we have an entire generation of girls who can't conceive on my mothers side. There's four of us. We have the capability but it would require months or years of drugs and possibly surgeries to correct this genetic abnormality. Plus Jeff used to be a weight lifter and started steroids in highschool. He has only been off of them for about three and a half or four years. Therfore he would have to have drugs too. Neither of us feel it is worth it to kill our careers and our bodies to bring another life into the world that doesn't need to be here. We decided a long time ago to adopt when the time is right career wise. I am just wondering if with this 30th birthday coming up he is feeling the "biological clock" pressure.