I've been thinking a lot since I can't seem to really please this community as I've done with the Guinea Pig community and such. I've gone through harsh times 2 years ago with consistent cage changing with my hamster and she got massively stressed out there is no two ways to put it(every month or 2 months she was in a new cage). I've found a Facebook group that doesn't criticize me for keeping my bettas in an unheated 1 gallon tank. There have been a few people that have made me want to stay on this forum and there have been a lot of people who have been making me to do this post since my thread about a 1 gallon bowl. Though in general I feel I need to leave this community before other people trying to help out get in trouble because I don't take their advice and such. Now I don't want to leave this forum because I'm sure I can't find another one as good as this one, but it's my decision. I'm not one to tell someone to stop because they've upset me, I've gotten into so much trouble with forum staff doing that(seriously, they say tell a staff member and then I get in trouble for using a staff member against another member). I think the only real time's I would pop back onto this forum is for if one of my 3 fish is ill or when Magma(or one of the others) goes to fishy heaven. But I'm an adult and I am feeling VERY mistreated by most of the members and they know who they are even though I have apologized for not listening and such it still happens, because they are to hard headed and cannot get over themselves(had to say that). I've listened to my mom and really REALLY held out on getting the next size up for tanks. These are my fish and I will take care of them how I want to take care of them
and not how people tell me to, with that hidden effort of trying to sneak in that tank upgrade.
I've done what I can to explain myself for people to understand that I cannot ask my parents for an extra $20 because I owe them in total $450+, to pay off the times they helped me out when I over drew my bank account and when they paid off for my one semester of college(these things I left out) and I'm tired of my financial issue being labeled as an excuse to why I cannot get this, this, and this for my fish. I learned what I wanted to and I think that's all I can really ask for in this community. I've never been so displeased with a forum community. I'm also tired of being known when someone is talking about me and they try to play it off like it's in general or they just don't care.
Now I can complain to the staff of how I feel like I am getting treated on this forum, but what good would that do? A warning and then within a few days maybe a month or two it will pick back up again. I've been put under so much stress with this forum trying to please you all, and I can't I honestly can't, but that doesn't mean I'm going to sell my fish or even return the newest guy. You can't make me do anything, and I don't care if you cry and complain, their my fish, and I know when their happy. They get all excited and active swimming around their bowls when I come into my room, just like how my Guinea Pigs greet me with wheeks. You cannot say my fish are sad that they don't have a bigger tank to swim in.
Anyways I think I'm about done venting myself out and I apologize if it's confusing and like mixed up. I'm most likely going to take my leave at the end of the week. I rather not have a stressful birthday, Easter, or spend my Grandma's 1 year anniversary of her passing sulking. We're all different but we all bleed red. We breath, therefore we're only humans, and for me, you can only push me so much until I have actually broken down. I won't leave personal rants for the members who I felt mistreated me the most because I am better then that and I know I am a better human being then they most likely are(even if they disagree). The most I can say is, I'm trying, what more do you want from me.
Your welcome to message me and we can talk one on one, I'm fine by that. My boyfriend is asleep so I cant vent out to him and most of my friends don't really offer the best advice.