Originally Posted by MrNighttime
So as I have posted elsewhere, my male Pickle has lost a fin. He is struggling it seems. I got him as a pet/project for my daughter when she cae to stay with us for the summer. We picked him out, the decor, everything.
My fiance, who clearly isn't attched to the fish as I am, tells me that I need to flush him and get it over with. She says he is like a 3 legged dog or blind cat now. She wants me to just "get rid of him" and doesnt want me to get anymore fish as "obviously you can't take care of them".
I couldn't figure that one out. "It's just a freaking $3 fish for crying out loud and we can get rid of that tank".
Try as I might I can't convince her that it is hard to "just flush him". ANyone ddeal with this and any advice?
It may be that she also sees the fish as a reminder of your daughter and your previous relationship, and thus feels insecure and resents the fish.
Not really about the fish.
A good opportunity to go for deeper communication here. I highly recommend the book Non-violent Cmmunication by m. Rosenberg.
In it he details how he gets opposing sides to communicate, including rival gangs and opposing sides of war like Palestinians and Israelis and Catholics and aprotestants from Northern Ireland.