More like ranting about the hubby's attitude about bettas? or... I don't know.
I'm a bit frustrated right now. And it's so silly, but it makes me sad. Obviously, my husband is not into bettas like I am. I had bettas growing up, but didn't for years, all throughout my marriage, until I found an old tank in storage and said "yay, I want one again!"
So I got Saki. Saki took to my husband (and ignored me... brat, lol) and always came up to him when he went into the room. He ran from me when I came in, go figure. So my husband decided to get his own betta. Yay! A hobby we can share
For a while anyway. Sushi was what my husband calls a fish dog, aka a fish that really begs for his food when he's hungry (like... hitting the tank side to get your attention type begging) on top of that, he had the marble gene. So he went from royal blue to almost all black with white and red fins.
Alas, sushi died of unknown causes. My husband adored him, and didn't want to get another fish for a while because he didn't want any other fish. Yeah, that didn't last. He got a new betta a week later because he said the tank felt too empty and it was making him more sad. In comes Shisu! (original name, right? Sushi- to -Shisu)
Well... Shisu is just not the same to my hubby. I think he decided before he ever got a fish that he wasn't going to like him because "no betta will ever be as cool as Sushi" (his own words). All fine, whatever... he feeds him and I clean the tank as usual.
But today I dragged him into Petsmart to look for gravel to prepare for my new tank when it arrives. Oh, we saw the prettiest turquoise Dragon scale ever. He was gorgeous. I think he was even show quality, and his turquoise was very solid, all through his body, fins, and tail. I didn't have a camera with me and our phones only have space for a few photos and were both full memory. His dorsal fin also had darker turquoise leopard spots.
My husband fell in love... with a betta! OMG... but... we don't have an extra tank, and there's no way he would want to get one.
So I'm all excited, he loves a betta, he loves a betta! whoohoo!
Then he starts complaining on the way home (we did not buy him, but had a lovely debate over which betta was greener, that one or mine... obviously mine, that one was turquoise, but he forgot how green mine was)
On the way home, he started voicing just how much he dislikes Shisu. "Shisu hates me, he's afraid of me. I wish I didn't get him. I whould have waited longer" very frustrated.
So when we got home, I thought and thought and thought. He shouldn't have a betta he doesn't like, that's really not fair to him or the betta. But... what to do? So I started making suggestions.
I can try to find him a new home.
"no, no one would take him, our neighbors wouldn't want a betta or friends" so I suggested I divide one of my 5 gallons and let him share a tank with Soren until I do find a home.
"but that wouldn't be fair, they should have 5 each"
So I told him I would really like to find a solution so that he can get the betta he loves, and Shisu can be taken care of by someone who actually likes him. So then he starts going "forget it. I don't want any betta"
grrrrr "what do you mean? I thought you adored that dragon scale" "I do... but maybe I'll also dislike him if he doesn't have a similar personality to sushi" OH GREAT! come ooon!!!!!
me- "ok.... so what do you want? do you not even want a tank in the office?" "well... it doesnt do any good here... i don't even notice he exists half the time because he hides from me a lot"
".... but you really loved that dragon scale... but you don't want a betta... but you do... but you don't...."
"I don't care, it doesnt matter"
men call women complicated!? Seriously!?
Ok.... I just stopped typing for like 10 minutes because he came in the room and I was talking to him very seriously about this.
We've reached a solution. Since his birthday is in 3 days, I told him that I would buy him a 5 gallon tank and the betta he is in love with as a birthday present, and was just very.... stern with the idea that this betta looks very different from Sushi and so he can't think of them as similar in any way or expect them to be.
We were going to get my daughter a 5 gallon tank and get her a fish anyway, so we're just going to speed up the process and let her take care of Shisu as her own. (or rather, help me take care of him)
What a head ache!!!!!! Isn't this so silly!?
Anyway, problem solved... but yeah... my hubby... he loves and hates animals at the same time, what's with this? I think his biggest problem is that he gets very very attached to certain pets and then is just disappointed with any pets after that. He still talks about the cat he had as a kid every time childhood kitties are brought up.