Wow I'm very sorry to hear about both your losses. It sounds a lot like what I went through recently. My uncle was diagnosed with cancer and given a year to live... But 6 weeks later I found myself at the hospital and he had passed away. I went home that night and laid on my bed staring into my fish tank and somehow I managed to see this little fry swimming around. I managed to scoop him up and get him in a fry net but he died like an hour later... I don't know that I believe in reincarnation but it was comforting... Until the fry died too.
Just remember the good times.