Haha np! I had to look up many abbreviations when I first really got into it as well, back when I wasn't on any forums ;-D
I'm glad it's active! That's great news! Yeah I thought I saw an ovipositer on my "girl" as well, turns out that young males can also have an imitator ovipositer. How long are the ventral fins? That will help a little, but the point in the anal is still making me question.
Here was my "girl, you can see the faintest look of an egg spot
And then it turned into a male lol I got it to flare with my girl Mystique who turns out to have a large beard as well! But you can see the imitator ovipositer between the ventral fins and now you can see the color too. But see how the anal fin slants? Females have more of a "boxy" shape.