So I have a very handsome kitty. His name is Hemingway. He's a lovely orange and white domestic shorthair tabby with loads of love to give. I also have a cat at my mom's house which is two states away, his name is Toby and he is also an orange tabby but he's a maine coon mix so he has lots of long floofy hair. I am very sad because in August I have to take Hemingway down to my mom's or risk losing him forever. I'll explain... I asked the apartment manager if it was ok to keep him because I found him wandering the streets, very hungry and attention starved. I got an ok. I didn't ask my roommate because I know she doesn't like cats and frankly I didn't intend to keep Hemingway for very long before sending him to my mom's. I realize it was a little bit of a backhanded thing to do but I am also scared of my roommate because she is very disrespectful and has laughed at me for loving my betta fish so much and gets a real kick out of shaking my desk that he sits on and freaking him out... Well she came home early and blew up in my face and made me cry myself to sleep. Now she says that since I didn't ask her if it was ok to bring a cat home that she can bring her boyfriend to spend the night in our shared bedroom whenever she wants even if I am home. Which kind of scares me since I am not at all comfortable with having a man sleeping across the room from me... I am very worried she will try to hurt Hemingway or take him away and put him in the pound while I am gone on vacation... Hemingway has brought me so much joy and happiness but now I can't focus on anything because my roommate frightens me. She stomps around and even Hemi, who is normally very friendly and loving runs and hides if he hears stomping because she scared him very badly and now he won't come out if she is home
I kind of want to talk to her but I've tried in the past and it doesn't really work so the only option I can see is having a close friend watch him so I can go to my conference and then take him with me on my road trip in which I will be stopping at my mom's house. I guess I said all that to say how can I deal with her? I don't have a job yet... I'm in the process of looking because I just lost my job a few weeks ago and I can't afford to move anywhere else. All I want is to not cry myself to sleep and to not be scared of my roommate.