So I invited my friend of over 10 years to come over my boyfriend and I's apartment last night because she told me that day she was quitting smoking cigarettes and I thought I could keep her mind off it. We don't really hang out as much anymore because she's honestly kind of a mean person and always wants to do things her way regardless of what it is. She also invited me to go away with her and her family this weekend to the Berkshire mountains. She knows I have fish tanks and betta fish, she herself is an animal lover with 4 chinchillas, a dog, and a cat. Somehow a discussion about my 4 tanks (3 ten gallon and a 5.5 gallon) came up and both she and my boyfriend (of 6 years) began attacking me about it, telling me I have way too many tanks and "what's the point". I told her I like betta fish and she then goes around and looks at all my bettas and says, "Well your betta fish aren't even cool looking like the ones you showed me on the internet so I don't know why you have so many tanks, there MUST be another reason." All the while my boyfriend was agreeing with every single thing she said, both about how all my betta fish are basically ugly, that I have too many tanks and he was giving her dozens of other negatives about owning the tanks. He literally does nothing to help me with any of my animals. I asked her what's the difference between 4 small tanks and one large one with many more fish in it and she said, "I don't know, I just don't like betta fish." I know everything she said is untrue and makes no sense considering betta fish are one of the most colorful and beautiful tropical fish you can own but I am still hurt by it. I'm more hurt my boyfriend was siding with her the entire time. Not to mention my friend has much more expensive and dangerous BAD HABITS such as cigarettes, prescription pills and sleeping around with a different guy every single week. Why do I let people bother me? Needless to say I'm not going away with her this weekend anymore because I know how that's going to end up...with me being miserable and not being able to do anything I want with a "friend" who's craving nicotine the entire time. My boyfriend will suffer silently at the whims of my passive-aggressive tendencies.
I'm just happy I have this forum to rant to where I know the people will understand, and not judge me on how many fish tanks I have. And I KNOW I'm not the only one here with 4 tanks or more.