I have this problem sometimes too. Gloria will BULLDOZE her way through the girls whenever there's a hint of food.
I normally feed Aigis and Gloria (the two really active ones) first so they're distracted, and then lead Bambi and Lolita a little further with my finger and feed them. If not, I just net Gloria so everyone can get a chance to eat.
I have pretty much the same routine.. Scarlette will take pellets right out of the other girls mouths, so I feed her and distract her, then feed the other girls.. She was huge when I came back after leaving my bf in charge of them for a few days because he was so worried about making sure each of them got a pellet or 2 he would keep trying until they each had eaten, and Scarlette would end up eating 6 or 7.. I apparently forgot to mention to him that it's no biggie if one of them misses a meal once in a while..
Thanks for the tips guys! I think Meadow will be the alpha female. . . I originally thought it would be Carmella but she has settled in calmly in her 1 gallon. I guess I will have to wait till the tank is cycled and the girls are in there to see how the two new girls are personality wise.