Originally Posted by vaygirl
Well, in my house there's understanding. So it's not really an issue. Sometimes I decide if it's more important to him and not so important to me, what's the problem with letting him have his way. And it goes the other way too.
A good example is my fish stuff. They're REALLY a big part of my life. But he didn't want any to begin with. Then I asked him how important it was to NOT have fish in his house and he realized it didn't matter very much to him. So I get what I want.
That makes sense to me. But honestly, we agree on most everything. So we don't run into this very often.
lawlawl I know this is late, sorry XD;
I know and understand what you mean, but I was referring to somewhat more ambiguous issues. To be honest your example is like going into a person's house with all these big game trophies (and err mounts) and telling them to stop hunting game. Just by looking at your fish stuff, people should KNOW right off the bat without even having to even know you super super well that your fish are very important to you. In which case your method works perfectly fine albeit generally unnecessary.
As I was saying I was generally referring to things that are a tad more complicated such as treatment of each other, the fundamental way a person behaves, etc etc. It isn't easy to objectify your feelings and just give it some arbitrary number on a scale of 1-10. Every time I go to the ER for pain, and they ask me "How much does it hurt on a scale of 1-10?" I say FIFTEEN. If it's something both parties believe strongly about, your method won't work.
Also as I mentioned before, I know a lot of people who would just immediately say "10!!!!" just to get their way.
However, I am extremely happy and glad to hear that you and your S/O rarely run into these situations, many applauds to you. I've seen so much general selfishness and failure around me that I wish you eternal joy