Okay, so I have this friend.
She's 15, she's been going out with our other friend since the first week of November. He's a nice kid, funny, sweet, and he plays guitar and bass.
She's a triple black belt, really into art, and plays guitar and piano.
So, they were doing candy cane sales at my school this past week as a fundraiser for the junior class. We were sitting there talking about it, and my friend Haley goes "Sydney, come with me to go buy candy canes."
Sydney went "No, I can't."
Haley said "You can leave Bruce for five minutes, come on."
Sydney said "No, I can't."
EVERY TIME Bruce comes around, she gets super clingy and she can't leave his side. I used to kind of like him like him, but not so much anymore, he's just one of my friends. So it's not because I'm jealous, it's that I hate the fact that you can't have a decent conversation with either one of them if the other one is around, and it used to be Bruce and I would discuss music for hours because I play guitar, piano, sing, and like the same music he does, and he thinks I'm very talented. We can't do that anymore.
And to top it off, while we were talking about the whole candy cane thing, this is what happened:
Me: "I doubt I'm going to get any candy canes."
Bruce: "Don't say that."
Me: "But I won't."
Bruce: "Yes you will."
Me: "I really don't think I will. I don't care if I don't."
Bruce: "I'm sending you one cause I don't want you to feel bad."
Sydney was sitting right there next to him during that conversation. She got this look on her face. It was the "OMG SHE'S TRYING TO STEAL HIM FROM ME!" look. No, Sydney, I'm not trying to. Your boyfriend is a nice person who doesn't want one of his friends to feel bad, so he's trying to make his friend feel better.
Ever since she started going out with him, she's been very defensive around me. Last week she FREAKED out because he didn't come to see her during assembly period. I was walking out to go to class and I said (very sarcastically) "Maybe he's avoiding you." and then I left. She ran off to him and at the end of the day he came up to me and went "Why did you say she was avoiding me?" while she was standing right next to him. I said "I was being sarcastic." and she said "It sure didn't sound like it." so I said "Well, I was. You need to stop taking everything so seriously."
I really wanted to go "Well, Sydney, sarcasm is wasted on you." because it really is. Every time you say something sarcastic, no matter how obviously sarcastic it is, she takes it seriously. My dad is pretty much the most sarcastic person I've ever met, and so I've learned the ways of sarcasm well. It makes me mad that she takes everything so seriously.
I was talking to my mom about it, and she says that she thinks Sydney is so defensive now for a few reasons:
1) Bruce and I hit it off and we're good friends, and she's insecure about that.
2) She has what my mother called average looks, and apparently I'm very pretty (I don't see it, I think I'm average, but everyone else says I am), so Sydney is insecure about that.
3) I don't really care about how I look. I like to look nice, but I don't worry about makeup or whatever. The extent I wear is mascara and occasionally very light eyeliner that you can never see anyways because of how close I put it to my lash line and how skinny the line is. Sydney is very concerned about how she looks, and doesn't like the fact that I can be "pretty" without trying.
4) I'm 5'8.75, almost 5'9 (I grew again) and she's 5' so I intimidate her a little.
5) She dresses very oddly. She hates being a "prep" so she wears combat boots and leather jackets and trench coats and such. Only reason she wears polos is because they're one of the only shirts that fit school dress code. She's obsessed with Hot Topic. I show up to school in nice pants and polos and I don't really care how I look as long as I look nice and I match.
6) They aren't used to the combination of: Pretty, smart, witty, nice, sarcastic, funny, athletic. There are a lot of VERY pretty girls in my grade, but they aren't very smart. I focus on school, I am responsible, I don't really care about guys because I know how high school relationships tend to end, and I don't want to deal with it. I'm obsessed with horses, and only Bruce understands that, and that's because his sisters ride so he can understand why I love it so much. I don't worry about how I look. Basically, to put it bluntly, I don't care. I was raised to be open minded but to stand up for what I believe in, and I refuse to let people walk all over me.
That's what my mom thinks, not me. I just think that Sydney is insecure because I came in new this year and made a big splash and became close with her friends very quickly, not trying to steal them from her, and she thinks that I'm going to steal her boyfriend just because I'm friends with him.
And since she's that bad just for a candy cane, I wonder what she'd do if she found out he hugged me the day after he asked her out because I was having a bad day. She'd probably try to kill me....
I really want to tell her to stop being a defensive jerk, but that's too rude for me. So I do what I learned from my cousin. I'm a jerk with a smile on my face. I make remarks that she can't figure out, but I know what they mean.
It's driving me insane. I just needed to rant to someone. But we're on break now and I'm hanging out with my BFFL on Wednesday (I see her once a year because she lives on the other side of the country). I'm so glad we're on break because it gives me a chance to wind down and just be my normal unstressed self. I HATE teenagers with annoying relationships. I can't thank my one friend enough for keeping her relationship quiet. She and her BF were friendly at school, but they saved the clinginess for outside of school, so you could actually talk to them. Plus they were okay with their BF/GF talking to friends of the opposite gender.