Originally Posted by GreenTea
I'm not trying to rush it..I'm just still new and my first spawn happened in a few hours which I thought was normal, now it seems I hear that it taking a few days is more normal.
It's just stressful because I don't want the female to get killed if left in too long you know? And all that and although I've done lots of research and asked people, reading their signs can still be a little challenging at times. I feel more at ease about it now since it can take longer.
Sorry, my mistake.
The general guide; if the female remains colored, she is willing to spawn - usually with breeding bars. And the male should always swim back and forth between female and nest.
Less aggressive/low esteem females will likely get beaten up more than aggressive females. Perhaps the male is frustrated because she is not following him - not sure. If you know your betta's character, try using less vicious males for these females.
If the female is not moving much and weak, always on the surface or floor, take her out although she is still colored up with bars. Though she may spawn, but she may also die afterwards due to her injuries.